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Lonely, my priorities are out of order
I know it’s cringe to post this but idk where else I can ask for advice. I would prefer advice from someone in their 20s. :
I’m so used to consuming all this media (shoujo, josei, yaoi, basically any kind of romance/intimacy) to cope with the fact that I’ve never been liked/wanted irl. I’ve lately been trying to stay off this site so I can be more productive. And the worst part is this shouldn’t even be my top concern bc I still gotta learn how to drive, prepare for grad school, work hard at my job but I just don’t. I don’t have the drive. I just feel what’s the point of life if I’m never special to someone. I also have no friends. I just have trouble getting along with people. Convos with ppl online feel bland (usually I’m the one asking questions and it’s more they just answer me) and no one anyways cares like they don’t text first ever and irl people don’t like me bc I have social anxiety so I’m serious/awkward/quiet. I’m just down about life. I got no personality too like no hobbies bc I’m always stressed and heck even food doesn’t make me happy ever. I’m 23 and I’ve never ever been romantically liked by someone (someone did approach me once and we just talked for a while but I didn’t know his intentions until he asked what are we and I rejected him and he admitted he asked me bc he was lonely + he apparently was talking to other people and another time a guy approached me with a pickup line but it was really unnerving bc he was scrutinizing my face even my side profile). I see others my age in relationships (and I’ve seen others clearly have someone interested in them like people were flirty or always trying to talk to them/be near them) and some are in serious relationships like they wanna eventually marry each other. I’m also really sad about my looks like I feel the only way to be “chosen” I guess by a guy is to be goodlooking and sure maybe I could find someone who would think “ok you don’t look terrible I don’t mind dating” but usually it’s being goodlooking that makes guys think of the relationship as serious/long-term and they’re just far more interested. Yes I shouldn’t center my life around male validation and I sound very immature. But I wish someone would be excited talking to me.
Early 30s here. I didn't start dating until 21 and even then it was just one person who I lucked out with and we've been together ever since. (Not religious I'm just weird and I found another weirdo who I really like!) So you don't need to date a ton of people you just gotta find someone you click with and that can be difficult. It doesn't mean the...... reply
Hi there, well...what you're feeling is something I've went through when I was also 23. Loneliness is an underrated ugly feeling that's often not talked about but loneliness can make you do things and rewire yourself that sometimes you don't even know who you are anymore. I think the only advice I can give you and also this is the only thing that w...... reply
I really relate to a lot of what you wrote. I've honestly never been that interested in romance for myself, but I'd be lying if I said it never gets lonely seeing people my age in relationships. It can make you feel like you're missing out or somehow behind, even when you know everyone moves through life differently.
From what you wrote, though, i...... reply
I really relate to a lot of what you wrote. I’m 22 (turning 23 soon), and from the outside my life probably looks pretty full. I’m active, I stay busy, I have friends, and I’m always working toward something. People would probably describe me as an overachiever.
But if I’m being honest, loneliness doesn’t disappear just because you’re ...... reply
