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What do you think of this?
I want to ask something, genuinely curious what people think. Do you guys believe that not wanting straight side couples in BL/GL is inherently misogynistic? I came across a thread where a girl said exactly that, she didn’t like straight side couples in her BL/GL, and the response was cruel. People called her every word in the book. Misogynistic, fetishizing, generalizing, basically anything that ended in “ize” or “ic” got thrown at her, whether or not it actually applied.
Here’s my take, I don’t think it’s misogynistic. Not even a little. If I’m reading a BL or a GL, I’m there for queer representation. That’s the reason I picked it up in the first place. So when a straight side couple gets inserted into the story, it’s not that I have a problem with hetero romance, I read plenty of it and enjoy it, it’s that it’s not what I came for. Wanting the media you turn to for representation to actually represent you isn’t a problem.
What bothers me is how casually people throw around words like “misogynistic” and “fetishizing.” These aren’t just insults you get to deploy because someone has a preference you don’t like. They mean something. And when you use them this loosely, you drain them of any weight for the situations where they genuinely apply.
The part that really gets me is that it’s usually the same people making these accusations who don’t actually care about gay men being fetishized, and don’t actually care about misogyny. They’re not defending anyone. They’re using the language of social justice as cover for what is, plainly, homophobia. Calling someone a “gay fetishizer” for reading BL, or “misogynistic” for not wanting heterosexual relationships in queer media isn’t concern about representation, it’s an excuse to be upset that queer stories exist without needing to justify themselves to people who dislike gay people in the first place. What’s your opinion on this?
i personally have heterophobic problems idek when it started but i believe that if we want to create a space between hetero x homo ships to exist at the same time, then it's better to make that the point in the first place. rather than making either hetero or homo side stories cause it just feels like the readers are being given scrap shit nobody w...... reply
Heaven's sake let the person have their yaoi served up the way they want it lol I agree with your comment that throwing around heavy insults without truly verifying from the source the context etc does lessen the meaning and value so...but fools that are quick to attack don't understand that -- tiny brains! For me I am not for or against a st...... reply
Both sides are huh... Being queer doesn't excuse someone from being stupid. I realized this when the Nakamura-kun fandom insulted this girl with glasses who has an innocent crush on Nakamura—I mean, a display of heterosexuality in the middle of BL—and she received a lot of hate just because she's a female character. She doesn't interfere in the...... reply
no, it is not misogynistic to want queer couples instead of heterosexual ones in the media you're reading or watching as it's all about preference. just as you stated, so many people tune into yaoi and yuri to see queer representation as well, so it's natural for them to feel upset when they don't see what they were originally promised. although i ...... reply
First of all, it’s ridiculous. Ppl discovered the words “misogyny” and “fetishization” and have never let them go. Same thing with “woke.” They don’t even know what they’re actually expressing or conveying with those terms, and they just go around talking bs.
In my case, I don’t care if straight couples are added to LGBTQ+ roman...... 1 reply
I never see lgbtq+ side couples in hetero comics so yeah I'm completely fine with having no hetero couples in lgbtq+ comics.
Misogyny is hating women not hetero people so huh???
Like sure hetero people are the majority in real life but I do not care about irl!!! In my lgbtq+ media everyone is gay and everyone is happy!!! 1 reply
Idk if this relates but this lowk reminding me of heesu in class 2 in a way, I personally have no issues with side couples being straight in queer media depending obviously on what the storys main focuses are but what I lowk had an issue with is how even tho heesu in class 2 was meant to be a bl series the main focus seemed to be the straight side ...... 1 reply
I dont really care tbh. They're just side couple and not the main focus. Her opinion of not wanting a side straight cpl is fine. That's just her opinion. As long as they're not hating. reply
