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I recently ended a friendship over something from the past, and I’m honestly a wreck about it She used to talk about me behind my back, and she’s still close with people who bullied me all throughout middle and high school. Weirdly, that never bothered me much since I’ve made peace with them. But she also stood up for me more than once and was genuinely there for me when it counted. Another friend pushed me to cut her off, and I did, but now I’m second guessing everything. Would love to hear other experiences and if anyone’s been through something similar

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Do you want to have kids? I was thinking of adopting a child when I’m financially stable. But that’s just a dream I have. I don’t think I will ever have a kid because I probably wouldn’t be an ideal parent

I don't think about this enough, but every so often it hits me, I'm just walking around, breathing, thinking, and none of it takes any effort. My heart's been beating all day and I haven't given it a single thought. We just get to exist like that's a normal thing to be handed.

And then there's the other part, all of us are separate people, each one built out of a completely different set of experiences, and somehow we still sit down and talk to each other about what we believe. Argue about it. Debate it out loud, in public, like it's nothing.

I could listen to people go back and forth on psychology or philosophy for hours. Not because I'm looking for a winner, I don't think there usually is one. Most of the time nobody's actually right or wrong, they're just standing in different places looking at the same thing. I don't find that discouraging. If anything it says something decent about people, that there's no one correct way to live, and we still manage to understand each other most of the time anyway.

I just think it's worth noticing sometimes how strange it is that we get to be here at all, thinking, walking, talking to each other, and most days I don't even register that.

Anyway, what do you think? Am I overthinking this or does anyone else feel this way too?

Okay I need to talk about this because it’s actually insane. There was a TikTok going around saying if you like toxic yaoi or toxic characters, you’d apparently be into a literal pedophile if he was conventionally attractive. So I made a whole thread breaking down why that comparison doesn’t hold up, the psychology behind fictional dark/toxic romance tropes vs. real predatory behavior towards children are not remotely the same category, and treating them as interchangeable actually flattens a really important distinction. (By the way the toxic yaoi in question was cna, passion, unchanged man, killing stalking, etc.)

And instead of anyone engaging with what I actually said, the replies were just: “you read rape so you’re a rape apologist,” “stop making excuses, you support rape,” “rape and pedophilia are on the same wavelength.” None of that is what I said. Nowhere did I say I condone rape, I made a whole video specifically explaining why pedophilia and rape aren’t the same thing and why fiction isn’t a moral endorsement of the acts it depicts.

I even asked one person who kept insisting rape and pedophilia are “the same thing” to actually debate me on it. Their response? “I’m not arguing with a rapist who supports toxic rapist men.” I asked for an actual debate and got called a rapist. That’s the level of discourse we’re at, zero engagement, all accusation.
Like, what do you think of this? Because to me this isn’t a difference of opinion, it’s people refusing to read past the first sentence before reacting. It became “agree with the take or you’re defending predators,” which isn’t a discussion, it’s a purity test.

And the video had a ton of people agreeing with zero pushback, which is exactly why media literacy discourse online is in shambles. This is genuinely part of why CSA survivors have said online fandom spaces seem to care more about fiction being “problematic” than about how real harm actually works.

I just wanted to share this because it’s genuinely so stupid to me, and honestly it makes me feel like future generations are doomed if this is what passes for critical thinking now.