What's the tea?

I have tea to spill because I'm pissed off and all my friends are asleep (it's the crack of dawn here) and I need to unload. Y'all can either spill some more tea or say whatever idk.
It's gonna be long, ngl.

So I've been part of this friend group for the past 6 or 7 years. It started online during COVID and then we grew closer in real life. But I left the group because they wouldn't stop hating on me. But I've kept a few of my friendships that actually mattered, the rest are just some misogynistic bullies who are triggered by an opinionated woman. Anyway, we were gossiping with one of the girlies and she was saying how this other girl whom I've never been really close to is talking shit about her and making up stuff about her. And I was like, I was at my sister's place the other day and she suddenly said she's close by, then she came and had a drink with me and said BLUH BLUH BLUH about you to me too. And my girlie said "you know she's been hating on you since day one, right? everyone knows." And I said I had no idea. (I fact checked and it was true btw. She had a whole group chat dedicated to me)
Anyway, fast forward to yesterday, my friend exposed a lot of things about her in her personal channel. I didn't say anything, just quoted the part that was about me in my own channel and said "I was never close to this person. But to all of my friends who've known about this, thanks for the heads up. I welcomed this woman into my home without knowing she talks shit about me."
And THEN one of my closest friends suddenly came to me and trashed me outta nowhere and said that I'm a cyber bully and that my feminism is selective and a lot of other mean things to me. And I was like, girl go talk to the person who exposed her. I can't tell a whole ass woman not to say certain things in her own private channel. But she wouldn't listen, and she was like "I shouldn't have backed you up when the other guys were shitting on you." And she was angry that "I didn't fight for her when she had a nasty breakup with this other guy from the same community." First of all, I cut contact with the guy after the thing with her. Second, I didn't FIGHT for this other girl either. And third, she never confronted the guy publicly for me to back her up. Uggghhh I can go on and on but my thumb hurts so that's enough for now. If you've read this far, thank you and I love you so much MWAAAH <3