i feel like mangago is the only place where you can ask questions and receive good advice in return so before u ask why im asking for help here its bc of that.
my dad is a total bum, my parents arent divorced. (even tho my mom really wants to) im not allowed to have a phone even tho im almost 18, i secretly have my moms old iphone 10 and when my dad found out i had a phone he broke it. My dad doesnt wanna pay for or buy me anything, he doesnt wanna pay for my school fees, for my uniform, my stationery, my clothes, nor doesnt wanna buy food my siblings and i can enjoy (hes the one that goes grocery shopping and he usually just purchases things he likes) i havent bought new clothes in 4/3 years ive been recycling through the same 3 sweaters and 2 pants for the past 4/3 years. Im not allowed to leave my house, im not allowed to go to the convenience store 2 minutes away from my house alone. This entire summer i havent gone out except probably yesterday with my mom to buy new uniform for school. He also forced me to wear the hijab at 13 (i secretly take it off when im not around him) in promise he’ll buy me a phone and whatnot, he never did. A year later he said if we got rid of my childhood cat of 10 years he’d buy me a phone. Again, he never did. Im so depressed i feel like chewing my food is too much of a task, i used to selfharm but my depression got so bad to the point where cutting myself is too much of a task to do. My grades are horrible, i cant get a job as a minor here, i dont know what to do with my life anymore. I feel like an animal has more freedom than i do. Please help me. (PS my mom pays for everything and does everything for me)
I think asking ur mom to have a divorce is the better idea but she might s as y no because of u are just a child so tell her how you and ur siblings life with him around and since ur mother buys almost everything u and ur siblings need it won't be that hard to live after the divorce but if this doesn't work all u gotta do is study. It is nvr late to study. Study so hard so u will get to a gd college then gd jobs too and u czn support urself and even u siblings but if ur parents don't divorce and u didn't get to college and get gd jobs u will be in that house forever so just for the sake of escaping study hard. And for the depression talk to ur siblings socialize and hv friends in scl and even online. Talk about ur struggles online like vent about it to feel a lil bit relaxed. Hope this help. Stay safe gg
You might need to go to a youth housing home:(. From what I know, these programs help people who are 16 to 24 years old. They take in those who are homeless, at risk of becoming homeless, or just leaving the foster care system. They provide stable living arrangements and support. You neeeeed to look into those programs or organizations that are around you because what you going through is abuse.
Unfortunately these arent available in my country, but what im thinking of is when my mom gets the courage for askinf for a divorce ill try to save enough money and move in with my boyfriend, thankfully the government pays for ur college tuition fees so all i need to do is seriously lock in and study hard but its really difficult for me
What you’re going through sounds really serious, especially since you’ve struggled with self harm and depression before. I really think you should talk to your mom or another adult you trust and be honest about how bad things have gotten. You also don’t have to confront your dad or get into a conflict with him, especially if you think it could make things worse. Try to get support from someone who can actually help you and keep you safe. You really shouldn’t have to deal with all of this alone.
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I think asking ur mom to have a divorce is the better idea but she might s as y no because of u are just a child so tell her how you and ur siblings life with him around and since ur mother buys almost everything u and ur siblings need it won't be that hard to live after the divorce but if this doesn't work all u gotta do is study. It is nvr late to study. Study so hard so u will get to a gd college then gd jobs too and u czn support urself and even u siblings but if ur parents don't divorce and u didn't get to college and get gd jobs u will be in that house forever so just for the sake of escaping study hard. And for the depression talk to ur siblings socialize and hv friends in scl and even online. Talk about ur struggles online like vent about it to feel a lil bit relaxed. Hope this help. Stay safe gg
You might need to go to a youth housing home:(. From what I know, these programs help people who are 16 to 24 years old. They take in those who are homeless, at risk of becoming homeless, or just leaving the foster care system. They provide stable living arrangements and support. You neeeeed to look into those programs or organizations that are around you because what you going through is abuse.
Unfortunately these arent available in my country, but what im thinking of is when my mom gets the courage for askinf for a divorce ill try to save enough money and move in with my boyfriend, thankfully the government pays for ur college tuition fees so all i need to do is seriously lock in and study hard but its really difficult for me
What you’re going through sounds really serious, especially since you’ve struggled with self harm and depression before. I really think you should talk to your mom or another adult you trust and be honest about how bad things have gotten. You also don’t have to confront your dad or get into a conflict with him, especially if you think it could make things worse. Try to get support from someone who can actually help you and keep you safe. You really shouldn’t have to deal with all of this alone.