Why is it that it's more shameful to be raped?

Why is it that it's more shameful to be raped? when you're a literal victim? They blamed how you dressed even if you're fully clothed. They blamed the way you act when there's literally a museum of clothings of rape victims and you'll see BABY CLOTHES FROM MONTHS OLD AND GRANDMA'S AGE. They blamed you for being raped. WHEN THE PROBLEM is MEN.
Also ABORTION should be legal. the person who was rape and got unwanted pregnancy should have the right to abort it and don't say to me it's a blessing and abortion is murder like bitch shut the fuck up there's already so many people in this world. Women should have the right what to do with their own bodies.. I saw one in a reels where a person ask this lady if she's okay with abortion and she said YES her niece was 4 Months pregnant and they found out that the baby have no skull so they took out the baby out of her body and watch it choke to death because it has no skull so it has no way to breath and he said something along the line that so it's okay to rip out a baby out of a body like are you fr? She literally just Explained why the baby should be surgically remove and this person wouldn't listen!!