Dead mom in rofan

What I really hate is it's always the mother who died during birth or while the mc is still a baby and the father always hated the child that his wife give birth to. Like who even told you to make your wife pregnant without even checking if her health is stable enough to bear a child, it's really sad most daughters are hated because of it and if the father came to love them it's because she looks like her mother. Hating on a innocent child is crazy, they be forgetting it's also their child.