Please offer any advice you've got

I never made things I was mad or uncomfortable about a big deal bc of less self importance but I've been talking to someone who has such firm boundaries that it made it me want to establish them in my relationship too but people close to me now find me annoying or trying to be moral all the time what should I do,
I don't know what to do anymore beacause it's making me see people I love in a different light and now I'm starting to understand they arent a good person but i don't want to grow apart from them