Aurinne's answer (11)

Hm. It's hard to find universal advice, but (38 years), these are probably the top things I've noticed, that might be helpful: 1) Give yourself permission to fail or be embarrassed. We tend to catastrophise and internalise the feeling of failing or being embarrassed. It doesn't mean you won't feel embarrassed if you offer a response in class and i......   1 reply

After reading manga, I struggle to go back to reading original English comics left-to-right, even though that's how I've read for more than three decades!   1 reply

EDIT: SEE END OF COMMENT FOR MANGA/WEBCOMIC/WEBTOON EXPLANATION. Both. It primarily comes down to the individual story and the execution of the story, which means there are amazing, good, mediocre, bad and not-to-my-taste versions of BL manga and BL Korean webtoons. If was forced to choose to read only one type from now on, I'd choose manga beca......   1 reply

(Sorry, I'm not exactly answering your question...) As you excerise, you would normally (eventually) build up muscle. Muscle is denser than fat, which means the same weight in muscle is actually skinnier than the same weight in fat (because fat is less dense - more spread out). What that means is that as people tone (build muscle), they may not we......   1 reply

All the answers so far are good, but you primarily need to know how YOU learn. Essentially, are you someone who prefers to go methodically, understanding each basic element before moving forward to the next step, or are you a big picture person, someone who likes to start with something big and purposeful and learn all the little details as you nee......   1 reply

Aaah, that IS scary! Actually, don't panic. When you panic, you tend to flutter around without focus. Instead, it's better to take one step at a time. (Of course, having an overall plan is helpful, but when it actually comes down to it, you need to revise the bit in front of you without worrying about all the other bits you're not revising at that ......   1 reply

My opinion about Yaoi & BL personally has mostly been expressed by one or two others. I just wanted to mention one sticking point I have when reflecting on ALL manga and anime, really, and that is who the primary Japanese audience is. Since I don't have any personal connection to Japan, what I don't know is how BL is perceived by its Japanese co......   reply

The bullying where I grew up was rarely severe - as in, nowhere NEAR what you see in Japanese and Korean comics - but it was still present, and enough to be painful for those who couldn't cope with it. In my experience, it was mostly teasing/name-calling type of stuff. I wasn't ever one of the cool kids, so I definitely felt less socially accepted......   reply

Theoretically, yes. I think that anyone, regardless of whether their race/religion/culture is the same as mine or different, would need to have basic values that are the same or able to coexist with mine. I mean, I could even meet a middle-class Australian of British descent (i.e. same as me) and if they were racist, homophobic, intolerant etc. the......   reply

I'm not sure if you were asking specifically for active strategies for your friend or just general strategies because you are curious. I agree with other commenters that it's tricky to give "advice" without knowing the full situation or either party's personalities. I can't completely resist, though, so I will give just a little suggestion. Genera......   reply

I'm probably not a pure fujoshi (certainly not a hardcore one), so some of your questions don't apply to me, but I'm interested in these discussions from different perspectives, so I'll share mine! 1) N/A (I don't, so I don't know, sorry!) 2) For me, personally, I don't look down on fem characters specifically, rather there are some characters th......   reply