about having friends
I'm in this club at my uni and it seemed great at first. I like what we do and it's my passion. Here's the thing: I've always had this weird vibe about some of the ppl in the club. Like we do all these bonding events, which are fun, but sometimes I feel invisible. A lot of them are in different sororities, so maybe it's that commonality? It's weird like I'll try to say something and they'll either just stare like I spoke a different language or talk over me as if I'm not there. It used to really drive me crazy and I started to dread being there. It's gotten better as ppl graduated and stuff, but it's still a select group of people that i feel odd around. I don't think it's me, because in every other club, people seem to enjoy talking to me.
I got dinner with a bunch of them tonight, and i swear they were all asking each other about summer plans, EXCEPT ME. I sat in the corner and barely said anything at all. I responded to other ppl's stories, but never was asked anything. I really felt like i was invisible. I don't know if this is crazy or what. I'm going to stay in the club because im not going to give up what i love, but I don't want to feel like an outsider anymore.
I got dinner with a bunch of them tonight, and i swear they were all asking each other about summer plans, EXCEPT ME. I sat in the corner and barely said anything at all. I responded to other ppl's stories, but never was asked anything. I really felt like i was invisible. I don't know if this is crazy or what. I'm going to stay in the club because im not going to give up what i love, but I don't want to feel like an outsider anymore.
about confess to your crush
Not that anyone is following lol. I posted a little while back about my experience confessing to my crush 2-3 years ago, getting rejected, becoming friends, and then realizing things were still kinda weird between us. We've only hung out in group settings before, as I'm closer to his roommates than to him. Since my last post, things have been mostly back to normal (as normal as it gets for us), except that we're more comfortable addressing each other and asking each other questions (still in group settings). I thought that since he's graduating in a few months, I might as well bite the bullet and ask him to hang out just the two of us. He said yes! He seemed pretty excited (as much as one can over text), despite being busy and having exams. My question is how can I vibe check how he feels about me or hint about my own feelings? Should I even bring it up? I thought this could be a good time because we're about to go on spring break and I could have *recovery time* lol. Also ideas of what I could do for this ambiguously friendly hangout haha...
about confess to your crush
I've been thinking about this for a while and I've decided I need to confess (again). I confessed when i first had a crush on him, before we became friends and it was a more nonchalant thing. He said he didn't want to date someone he was friends first.
Over the last 2 years, we've become friends (mostly through mutuals and group stuff). I realized recently that I have feelings again, which are definitely more serious. I was told by a mutual that after we hung out for the first time alone last week (farmers market trip), he asked his friend if they thought I still like him. The friend said it was possible, but could go either way and asked what he thought. He said he "had never thought about it before" and that he likes spending time with me. Knowing him, he probably didn't give it any more thought past that .
Even though I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same way, I need to get it off my chest before he graduates next month and leaves for his job. Any advice on what to say? And how I might be able to get him alone without setting off the alarms in his head?
Over the last 2 years, we've become friends (mostly through mutuals and group stuff). I realized recently that I have feelings again, which are definitely more serious. I was told by a mutual that after we hung out for the first time alone last week (farmers market trip), he asked his friend if they thought I still like him. The friend said it was possible, but could go either way and asked what he thought. He said he "had never thought about it before" and that he likes spending time with me. Knowing him, he probably didn't give it any more thought past that .
Even though I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same way, I need to get it off my chest before he graduates next month and leaves for his job. Any advice on what to say? And how I might be able to get him alone without setting off the alarms in his head?
about confess to your crush
A couple of years ago started liking this guy at uni and i confessed to him, but he rejected me because we weren't really friends, just had some mutuals. He said he would only date someone he's friends with.
Over the last two years, we've kinda become friends (I hangout with his roommates a lot so we end up in the same spaces), but it's always a little awkward. I know he still thinks about when i asked him out, because he's mentioned it to his friends recently. I also know that last year he liked one of his close friends (she doesn't like him), but idk if he's still into her.
I've always tried to be respectful and stay out of his space, and he's always kept his distance physically, but last week we were doing a puzzle with our friends at his apartment and he sat next to me, close enough so i could feel him breathing. He'd accidentally touch my hand and immediately apologize, which happened at least 5 times (once it was my knee, which I'm still trying to figure out how he got there). Even after i stopped acknowledging it, he would still apologize, which kinda just drew more attention. He would give me pieces that he thought i was working on and sometimes would take a piece, lean in and softly ask where i thought it goes. When I tried to leave to eat (i had been there for several hours), he said that they had food there, and when i said i specifically wanted chips, he said that they had those. When someone asked if he actually was serious, he hesitated and said he didn't actually know, which made me feel like he was just saying whatever so i'd stay (which he's never cared about before). We'd joke a bit here and there, and i admit i may have been flirting unconsciously by teasing him about his vocal stim habit of singing. My memory, of course, is unreliable. I should add that his previous(?) crush was also there, so idk if that influenced him.
My friends think he's into me, at least a little, but I'm not sure. He's also graduating this year, so i won't be seeing him after that. Is it worth saying something? Besties i need help
Over the last two years, we've kinda become friends (I hangout with his roommates a lot so we end up in the same spaces), but it's always a little awkward. I know he still thinks about when i asked him out, because he's mentioned it to his friends recently. I also know that last year he liked one of his close friends (she doesn't like him), but idk if he's still into her.
I've always tried to be respectful and stay out of his space, and he's always kept his distance physically, but last week we were doing a puzzle with our friends at his apartment and he sat next to me, close enough so i could feel him breathing. He'd accidentally touch my hand and immediately apologize, which happened at least 5 times (once it was my knee, which I'm still trying to figure out how he got there). Even after i stopped acknowledging it, he would still apologize, which kinda just drew more attention. He would give me pieces that he thought i was working on and sometimes would take a piece, lean in and softly ask where i thought it goes. When I tried to leave to eat (i had been there for several hours), he said that they had food there, and when i said i specifically wanted chips, he said that they had those. When someone asked if he actually was serious, he hesitated and said he didn't actually know, which made me feel like he was just saying whatever so i'd stay (which he's never cared about before). We'd joke a bit here and there, and i admit i may have been flirting unconsciously by teasing him about his vocal stim habit of singing. My memory, of course, is unreliable. I should add that his previous(?) crush was also there, so idk if that influenced him.
My friends think he's into me, at least a little, but I'm not sure. He's also graduating this year, so i won't be seeing him after that. Is it worth saying something? Besties i need help
about confess to your crush
I had my bestie bake this niche pie that my crush and i talked about liking several months ago just so i would have an excuse to ask him to come over and have some. For context, i asked him out 2 years ago and he turned me down since we weren't really friends yet. We're now kinda friends (have a lot of mutuals and are in band together). I know he's a chronic overthinker, but he's also incredibly dense lol and didn't even question the pie. While we were talking, i mentioned how his friend asked my bestie to eat dinner he cooked, just the two of them, and that i thought it was strange but she wasn't phased. We agreed his friend probably likes her. I then realized I literally just asked HIM to come over and it was just the two of us...i also waited 3 days and then asked him to hang out JUST THE TWO OF US. He once again didn't even question it and said yes and now I'm wondering if he's even catching my hints or what i should even do when we hang out... thoughts? pls help guys im crashing out I've been calling it an "ambiguously friendly hangout" but idk what he thinks this is
about weird dreams
I have dreams that aren't exactly recurring, but they have repetitive themes. Like i have a lot of zombie apocalypse dreams, but they're never the same. I also have dreams where my teeth with hurt A LOT and fall out (and it feels super real). Or another dream where I'll be trying to text someone (like a crush or a friend) something really important, but i keep pressing the wrong letters and i have to delete and start over until i get frustrated and give up. There's one where i finally end up with the person i love, but then halfway through the dream i look at them and they're totally a different person. I know the teeth dream is common, but i have no idea what the others mean. Wondering if anyone else has similar dreams?
Also, I had a really strange dream that i wanted to get my ears pierced with a second piercing (which is totally odd because for the longest time i decided i did NOT want to endure the pain of it). A while later, i was with my mom and she randomly asked me if i wanted to get my ears pierced. I asked how she knew and she said SHE had a dream about it! A couple of days later, i had it done. It has no real significance in my life, which is why it's such a weird thing to dream and prophesize.
Also, I had a really strange dream that i wanted to get my ears pierced with a second piercing (which is totally odd because for the longest time i decided i did NOT want to endure the pain of it). A while later, i was with my mom and she randomly asked me if i wanted to get my ears pierced. I asked how she knew and she said SHE had a dream about it! A couple of days later, i had it done. It has no real significance in my life, which is why it's such a weird thing to dream and prophesize.