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I just can't stand all this identity politics BS, I couldn't give a crap who likes to read what. No one should - that's their business (unless you ARE hurting somebody in a REAL way….like children. That I care about.) It won't be long before the tables turn if you start shutting down people's right to expression. It never ends. We should all ......   2 reply

I had an "abusive" father also, but not as bad as that! Blimey. We moved out one day when he was at work and we had to go live with various relatives because we were homeless. It's not a good thing for a child - in a way, I wonder if picking up and leaving with us kids was the right thing for my mother to do - because our lives after that were a ......   1 reply

Okay this sounds odd but just go with it!!!….. - Back when I was at university I was suicidal for a long time, it was all I thought about everyday (for many longstanding reasons which thankfully I've worked through now after 10 years or so) - oddly, and here is where you have to take my word on this…'South Park' the show, yes that show lol, go......   1 reply

Well, you get nutty people in ALL general groups. Statistically like 1 in 4 people have "mental issues" lol…. I myself have been reading yaoi for like ten years, and stumbled onto it because of the lack of decent love stories in other manga. The fact it is between two men is neither here nor there to me, the stories just tend to be better and me......   1 reply

I just saw this to the side of my screen there, it kind of made me laugh a bit because I wondered why you're getting so worked up about what your brother is up to and what he believes? Just leave him and his GF to it, it's their life - don't have him take up so much space in yours or your head…. At the end of the day what he and his GF does is n......   1 reply

At work during lunch break, though tbh pretty much anywhere I can get Wifi - as a fujoshi I got very offended when asked by a very straight dude (in a kind of hopeful voice) if I was reading Ecchi (because luckily all he saw was the manga part, not the man on man butt-sex part. That is ONE conversation I don't want to have with my colleagues!) Lout......   reply

I had a couple of experiences with Shadow people that are notable, I think I had more but I used to brush them off before these two to be honest so I don't remember enough details. First notable incident was staying at, what I guess either was a haunted hotel, or that something attached to me and followed me home from visiting a Grave yard/former......   2 reply

That's what it is; an opinion. All those people are entitled to theirs too. That's how equality works.   reply

My only advice would be to not rush into anything, not other-think it. I didn't catch how old you are - But I'm sure you are quite young! Are you in a position to get a girlfriend *right now? Do you need to declare your sexuality in official terms to everyone *right now? To put an official name on how you feel and who you are - *right now? I wo......   2 reply

I also have some friends who are super judgemental with things like that, I also have friends (married friends) who still feel the need to whisper rude words in conversation lol. One male friend actually got quite upset when we were light-heartedly once, asking each other about what material(s) we use to er, that thing….eheh…..so it really depe......   reply

I only have two close friends I've had for over 15 years. Everyone else I'd class as acquaintances and I'm not super attached to, and that's great - we keep things very casual which I like. Honestly there is no time limit to say what is a normal friendship as we constantly grow and change, and sometimes the people we are friends with do not grow ......   reply

Hello! Honestly my love, you have to go for it and embrace what life has to offer. It's scary - it is supposed to be scary! I was a lot like you, I made decisions based on what my friends were doing, I also had crippling social anxiety, especially when it came to interacting with boys and people my age. But - I REGRET letting my self live this wa......   1 reply

I only skimmed your message as it caught my eye, but; It would help to know what country you are in to be able to tell you what help is available, and also it would help to know what culture your family is - e.g. if Islamic, Asian the culture can complicate matters and can make getting help more delicate in a few cases. Also, how old you are to kn......   2 reply

People should do what they want! There is TOOOOO much shaming, virtue signalling and egotistical preaching going on in the world - it's so stupid. As long as you're not actually harming anybody - write, watch, say, believe and do whatever you damn want. That was the whole POINT of the gay rights movement - not to judge, to live and let live and exp......   1 reply

This is my advice based on working with a mental health charity…. These kinds of feelings you're having (fantasies of people dying, wanting to go through a traumatic experience, saving someone's life and being a hero etc) have strong links to clinical depression and honestly it helps to get out there and do something so that you are not focusing......   reply

Hell nah it's not fetishising of 'gay' people. I for one have zero interest in RL 'gay' couples, (and tbh I don't even believe in the term 'gay' - I think society just likes to put people into neat little boxes.) I believe that sex and 'love' is as fluid as peoples' emotions, minds and feelings so I really don't prescribe to this idea of 'oh I'm st......   2 reply

Firstly, I believe in freedom of expression. Manga and Yaoi is just that (it's ART, NOT RL!) so anyone who is interested in shaming someone else for their kinks can just fuck right off. My own put offs in Yaoi… - Underage for obvious reasons - When it's a slice of life, with college, kids etc is hella boring - When the Uke has a small D, is fe......   reply

I want to just say that anyone feeling suicidal - please, please, please get help - talk to someone - you are in control and you do have a choice - no matter how bad things seem. I won't go into my own reasons or life story because I kind of see the reason(s) as neither here-nor-there - but I feel suicidal most of the time, sometimes it goes away ......   1 reply