Characters who actually identify as Gay

One character is in the closet and shows his perspective on acting straight
but it's trash

Little brother's acceptance of his older brother's sexual orientation

Centers on a LGBTQ community, one of few to show and discuss the topic in depth - need to find more like this

Grappling with being out

Terashima identifies as gay. Shows his mother's acceptance of their relationship and his own struggles with his sexual identity that's made worse by poor advice from a rather predatory older gay.

Haruhi Sakagami identifies as gay and struggles with self-esteem issues. Seeks out casual sex which turns out to be a self-destructive choice in part because of the lack of any gay role models in his life. Shows him getting an HIV test, only time I've seen that.

Both protagonists identify as gay. Starts with them meeting in a gay bar in New York City, follows them through a lifelong relationship and their struggles to gain acceptance

Mishima identifies as gay and is bullied because he seems gay by his classmates.

A father stumbles across his sons love letter to his male editor, is conflicted with his own life choices because he is also gay.

Family rejection due to homophobia