I can't be team kanchan

there is a story all about yumi

Yumi already find his happiness. There is story about him.

whats it called? ヾ(☆▽☆)

http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/sabita_yoru_demo_koi_wa_sasayaku/

idk i feel bad for kan chan too because i read the oneshot about how he became abusive, i would react violently to that kind of thing too

I am aware, I have also read that (hence the reason I knew about it in the first place.) Thank you for the information, however.

And that's the thing. I feel bad for him, I do. He was abused and misused at work but he went and turned his back on someone who gave him nothing but love. Yumi never acted hateful toward Kanchan. He accepted everything. But just because Kanchan was hurt, that doesn't justify taking his frustrations and anger on someone else. You don't do that.

yumi don't really love kan chan. he Love another guy actually and there is a story about their reunion and kan chan abuse yumi because he been through a lot at the office . when yumi already found his happiness , kan chan still emotionaly unstable .

well, yumi was in love with another person, and it didnt seem like yumi actually loved kan chan anymore, he loved how he used to be and was just waiting for kan chan to go back to that. kan chan knew both these things, add that to all the stress and seeing someone living a carefree life while he was suffering so much

I think Yumi did love Kan, he had even thought "no matter what you do to me I will always love you" after getting beaten up by Kan (I re-read all of their mangas a couple of days ago)....I think that he would have remained with Kan if his old love did not appear....it is possible for humans to love more than one person, but Yumi saw that he had a stronger connection with the other guy, he felt that he knew him better than Kan. Yumi left Kan out of love for him too, he knew that Kan was hurting from their relationship as well....of course this is just my opinion though, I totally get that some people feel that there is no "real love" in domestically violent relationships, but I still feel that Kan and Yumi truly loved each other

ok, and? not to be rude (seriously I don't mean it rudely) but in all seriousness, if I was choked, hit and on average beat I might rethink my current feelings for a person. There was nothing wrong with waiting for the man you fell in love with to not mistreat you anymore. And unless Yumi was a masochist there was no way he could fully love the current Kanchan. Also a middle school crush doesn't really count as loving another person. He fell in love after the abuse and towards the end of their relationship. Kanchan was still in the wrong

See and when you get to things like this I don't feel it really mattered whether Kanchan loved Yumi or not. It was in the way he showed it. and he did it poorly. and I get everyone wants to defend this hotty 2 hotty. I get it, but realistically it was an unhealthy relationship (Love or not) and I totally agree with you about yumi leaving out of love. There were alot of wrongs in their lives and Kanchan hadn't had it easy but he still made the conscience decision to lay his hand on the person he loved to show dominace. and that is where the love becomes muddled. That's where it stops.

ya'll are really trying your best to defend Kanchan. It baffles me how the world can overlook things to suit their needs. There is a right and a wrong about this storyline. There is a shitload of grey too. Kanchan deserves happiness, everyone does. But in all honesty Yumi deserves more. Because ordeals like this lead to severe and I mean absolutly severe PTSD. Its all cute that y'all wanna drop it at "Well Yumi already moved on and found his love." The reason Kanchan isn't happy, the reason he is so conflicted and can't let that picture go is because he realizes this. He knows he has done not just an awful thing but one of the worst things you can do to a person. He took away someones safety and piece of mind. There will be nights where Yumi wakes up in cold sweats and screams because all his body remembers is pain and a distant 'time before' don't erase what Kanchan did. He is in repentance but don't just cry "Oh no my baby ~waaaah~ give him all the love" He dug his own grave as humans often do and its not over for either him nor Yumi. Don't erase Yumi because of this redemption story is my point

i meant yumi already didnt really live kan chan anymore even before he started beating him, he had changed too much because of work. and nobody would be so crazy about an object from their middle school crush, it was pretty obvious that yumi had loved that guy and still did. kan chan knew all of this before he started beating yumi. obviously that doesn't justify him doing so, but I understand why he did it and cant blame him too much for it

but dont you think that even though kan chan has a lover now, he wont get over what he did to yumi and will never stop suffering because of it? he wont ever be fully happy again and he knows thats what he deserves, isnt that enough of a punishment? yumi may have flashbacks once in a while, but kan chan will suffer more over all because of what he did. i think what he did was wrong, but he's already redeemed himself, and will continue to face his punishment for the rest of his life. that's why i feel worse for kan chan than yumi

you know talking to you is great cheylord. what better way than to connect over a yaoi. I do disagree with you however. It's like you have never met anyone who was abused before, Yumi had it and will always have it worse than Kanchan. sure kan will remember it. sure he'll feel bad. really really bad. but yumi, poor yumi actually went through it. and everytime someone touches him he may flinch now. or hate being touched now. or enclosed spaces. Kanchan may feel like he may never be aloud to smile again but I think it's sadder that Yumi smiles despite all the pain he felt. unspoken suffering isn't any less suffering. and kan is in the midst of redemption. he actually needs to have forgiveness from yumi for that and I'm not talking any of that "oh he forgave him when he left" nope that's too half-assed. the sit you down and repent kind and even then it would be up to Yumi to forgive. I mean kan is great and all (like I see his merits in this manga) but it is by no means worse for him.

ok lets play with the idea it wasnt a crush. it was full blown love. still, yumi loved Kan. they were in love and downplaying that is saying you can't have more than one great love in your life. the high school chapter portrayed it. fluffy and sweet. Kan and Yumi were fucking cotton candy. and the thing with understanding his pain and visibly seeing the other ways of going about dealing with pain is kan can very much so be blamed. the world breaks people. its what it does. but there is more than one way to react when you shatter and cutting the one who only wants to hold you together is not it. I blame Kan, I do concede that he is human and we make mistakes but throwing dirt on shit doesnt make it smell any less. ┗( T﹏T )┛

i agree that he should ask for yumis forgiveness too. but it doesnt seem like yumi will be affected too much in the future by how he was treated. he wasnt afraid while it was happening, and he was happy when he and the other dude got together and didnt seem to be thinking about kan anymore at all, i think he's one of the few who wont be traumatized by their past abuse. and its better that yumi can smile despite all the pain ge felt because now, its a real smile instead of one that covers his pain. its better to look forward after a bad experience than to be dragged down by it and be stuck in the past, and it seems like thats what yumi is doing. and i like talking to you too, i can actually have a discussion with someone without them getting angry with my opinions

(๑•ㅂ•)و✧ yeah Yumi is great

'but I understand why he did it and cant blame him too much for it '

It was stated quite obviously that the reason why Kan chan hit Yumi AT ALL was because of work. Even if he knew Yumi loved the other guy, Yumi did.not.show.it. You can love more than one person at one time. <<<This is something people forget. It's not unrealistic, it's actually a fairytale fantasy, believing you can only love one person and never love another at the same time.

And also, NOT ONCE was it implied/stated directly that it was because Yumi loved another person(and did not love him) that it was part of the reason why Kan was angry. It wasn't. THAT'S all fan speculation and it's how people like to excuse Kan's actions for. As though YUMI should be blamed for getting hit. Which I do not even understand how one can do that.

"He was jealous. Yumi did not love him. So I can understand why he hit him or get angry." << Isn't this ridiculous. NOBODY has a right to hit you. You can cheat on someone and NOBODY has a right to physically abuse you. YOUR body YOUR rules.

Even if Kan chan hit Yumi because Yumi loved someone else(which is ridiculous because it's not like Yumi talked/thought or had an affair with the guy before Kan started hitting him) it is still not right and YES you can blame him A LOT for it.

Just like Kan's abusers did what they did to him, Kan as well had NO RIGHT to hit someone else for it. Yumi being in love with someone else is not even a factor because it DOES.NOT.MATTER.