i don't get why you guys get so worked up about people sleeping around. people do it all t...

yes!well said!!

I don't know where you live but proper people will normally get worked up with people sleeping around. I mean why not get a proper boyfriend or girlfriend to do it with instead of passing around people. Maybe that's why they are being called sluts. It's not about the amount of sex they do with a person but about the amount of person they have sex with.

With a relationship you are tied down. Some people don't want strings attached or to have to deal with another person's feelings. There are tons of reasons why some people sleep around.

There is no such thing as "proper people". We are all corrupt, and we only condemn others to make us feel like we are better than someone else which is what slut-shamers are doing. It's pitiful.

Uh, yes. There are proper people. I know that no one is perfect but there are proper people who don't sleep around, who knows what responsibilities are, who knows sleeping around gets you nowhere. And a lot of them don't do it cause they want to be better than them, they want this so called "sluts" to be better people. If teaching other people what they need is pitiful, I don't know what's right anymore. And sleeping around sometimes produces unwanted children and unwanted diseases.

PLEASE PREACH IT! I used to sleep around, but that is cause I have a high sex drive and I lack romantic feelings. It bugs me when people slut shame. :( Like, everyone has different morals and standards... Ugh.

You can't stop people from sleeping around but sleeping around really really gets you no where. Love happens even if people think that they can't but they do fall in love at one point in life and it would suck to have the person you fall for call you a man whore or a slut or not be able to trust you completely because they would always be scared that you might cheat on them. I'm a very commited person who will only be with my partner and I also believe in true love and soul mates, it might sound cheesy and cliche but it's something that I'm willing to bet my life on!

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That sounds more like a fantasy. Everybody is corrupt and feels good from making others feel lower than them. The whole proper BS is something Mommy and Daddy told you to get you to conform to their ideals. It doesn't get you nowhere since you are taking care of a need and having fun which, last I heard, was good for you. It is about thinking what is inherently bad about being a "slut"? The answer is really nothing; it is just another thing we antagonize for in order to assert power. There is no definition of right and wrong; just what you want and don't want. What people do with their bodies is none of your business and you haven't the right to tell them what kind of person they are either. If your partner is not comfortable with your past sexual history even though you are honest about it and committed now then your partner needs to grow up and take a look at the real world.

When is sleeping with different people each time you have the urge a good thing? I just can't imagine.. Yes, it's not my business what other people do with their body but just because I don't care about them doesn't mean that it makes it right. Maybe YOU feel good when you make others feel lower than you but I don't . What kind of twisted feeling is that? Just plain ridiculous.

Well first it is something called fun. Then what are you doing right now? That is indeed what slut-shaming is. Same with making any sort of fun of someone or trying to make someone feel like they are ethically inferior. We all do it (some MUCH less than others), but we can all be caught doing it since power-hunger is in our nature. When I say "good" I don't mean good as in you've just eaten a really good slice of cake or had a good workout (because cake is obviously followed by working out ;D) and they made you feel good. This is a much more subtle and nagging form of good; it is almost depraved really. Good probably isn't the best word to describe it since it's misleading. The internet has made it all the worse because now we can hide behind a screen and say anything about anybody without any repercussions. People have different hobbies. This whole "right" stuff is not real. I never understand slut-shaming unless it is part of someone's religion (which it is very prominent in many) since that is just their way of life I guess, but in turn you could say that a sexually active person has their way of life too.

Uh, I'm not shaming them. I'm just saying that it's not right to sleep around. If a parent wants her child to know that what they are doing is wrong, are they already shaming them? If I want to tell some one that they are wrong, I already am shaming them?

I agree!! Me personally I don't slee around but I won't judge someone for doing so. If what you're doing does not affect me or anyone else then why should it matter? JulietClaire I understand what you mean but that's like giving advice to someone and then getting upset at them when they don't take it. It's their choice whether you like it or not and because you don't like it doesn't mean it's wrong to do. Everyone has their opinions on different situations that's why there is no true "right and wrong" if you really think about it.

I don't think you get what I'm saying.. It's not wrong. There are no "wrongs" in life, just our own ideals we push onto others. Yes, it is shaming them. Telling someone what to do with their body is a way of dictatorship and power-struggle. Do what you will with your own body.

I don't sleep around either, but I will fight for someone's right to do so because this is part of the adult world. Making decisions for yourself and what to do with your body is part of growing up. Some people never grow out of thinking that their ideals are law though.

Geez, I'm not pushing my ideals on them. I'm just saying that sleeping around is wrong. And even if you don't accept that there is right or wrong, well, I do. If a person robs another person that's obviously not right for me. If someone helps an old woman cross the street, that's definitely a right thing to do in my book. If someone robbing a person, someone helping an old woman and someone sleeping around the same thing for you, well, I don't have a say in that. Oh, and yes, sleeping around is part of the adult world. A very irresponsible adult world unless the one you are doing it with is your partner.

I salute you! You're amazing man and yes I totally agree with everything that you have to say. I love people like you, we need more people like you :)

Those are opinions not facts. I think you definitely understand that. The words "in my opinion" or "I like" or "I don't like" make all the difference. You are recognizing that you have a perspective. Telling anyone their lifestyle is right or wrong is a form of pushing your ideals on them though. I believe in right and wrong from MY perspective and hold myself to those ideals but not other people since it is not my right to judge them. I don't know what their values are, their experiences, etc. So I have no right to judge. I mean this in the most completely literal way possible with no emotions involved. Life is made of constructs that we like to believe are facts, but are different from another person's perspective period. Therefore it is impossible for them to be facts. So which perspective has right or wrong values? Neither.

Have you ever met someone tht has a perspective that robbing or raping someone is right? Have you ever met someone with a perspective that helping someone is wrong? Caise I havent. And probably never will.

"Proper people" mind their own business.

Proper people actually butt in people's business if it will lead to a brighter future of that person they are helping.