You seem really upset. I’m genuinely sorry if this hits home for you. But what I’m telling you is most people in relationships do not care. And the ones that do, will have that conversation with their partner letting them know “I do not like being touched unless I’m aware of it”. But for those who do not care, the conversation is never had because it doesn’t need to be. And I’m speaking from experience on both ends. I’ve been with a guy and didn’t care if he touched me while I was sleeping, drunk, whatever, and vice versa. And I also been with a guy that I didn’t want touching me without me knowing. And I told him that. Like I said, maybe when you get older you’ll figure this out. But you seem very young. And that’s ok. Good thing this is a FICTIONAL story lol
oh my god..... it doesnt matter????? you cant have sex with someone without consent or it is rape, AND he was passed out drunk. he was violated. and by the way, women are often taught to "not care" because of messages like these telling them that its normal. they are pressured into being silent. YOU NEED CONSENT OR IT IS RAPE. and by the way im in my fucking 20's and had to do a lot of work to undo the rape culture biases i had learned FROM YAOI.
I am well aware that works of fiction can impact rape culture. But I don’t believe this is one of them. And you can’t change my mind about it. This particular work of fiction portrays two men who are very much in love with each other, having drunken, consensual sex. Whether is started with him sleeping or not, either way he enjoyed it, and have implied multiple times he doesn’t care what his boyfriend does to him because that’s how much he loves him
Who hasn’t woken their boyfriend up with a bj? Or the other way around? Or hopped on top while they were sleeping? Or had their guy rubbing on them while they’re sleeping? Like yea, he’s doing it out of negative feelings. But I literally see nothing unnatural here. And this is coming from a 28 year old who’s been in three serious relationships.