FRRRRRRRRRR, The possessive and dominant ones ヾ(☆▽☆) yet also submissive and possessive ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄ on my knees. I love the best of both worlds(๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Real as fuck man. Love to see diverse dynamics !
you get it. I'm the same as you, except the possessive and probably dominant part lol but this story, especially their personalities, makes them feel like two men. iygwim, I'm essentially the author doesn't define each character's personality and their overall self based on the role they play in bed, like, Just because this character is a bottom doesn't mean he has to be or appear more "femme" than his partner, he's still a guy at the end of the day.
and to add, there's a tonn of femme gays who only top. so I fucking hate when BLs make it so linear and blakc and white when it really isn't. (sorry for the rambling too)
Seriously this man. I didn't want to say it "makes them feel like two men", because I know there ARE plenty of gay relationships where one guy is more femme or soft and the other is more masc or "hardcore", but the reason they feel more REAL is because this more heteronormative dynamic is HEAVILY over played in BL.
I also agree with the Femme tops, or generally- femme x femme gay guys. There is very little of that it seems. Though I do prefer masc men, so I don't actively search for it, but from the featured and popular BL's it seems femme tops and femme x femme is nonexistent at times. It is really bothersome to see the same stuff over and over...
But these two feel refreshing. Personality shouldn't be so tied to what you like in bed, and I really appreciate that from the author!
Silly ah ramble. Don’t mind me.
Honestly this makes me realize how deeply cliche the dynamic of gay men in BL still is. I’m a possessive and dominant top myself, so I do prefer the same in the works I read, but this one still gets me.
I think it’s because Matthew, while he is seen as cute at times, is still treated as a man and has his own sense of maturity and edge. When BL does the “switch up”, they tend to really infantilize the top, much like how bottom characters are infantilized anyways. They don’t do that to him or Jin, which I really appreciate.
I really like this. Jin being possessive and having a strong desire for Matthew, and he makes that clear (rather than other bottom aligned characters which keep it to themselves, get all flustered and secretive. Yes it’s cute, but I’ve seen it 100 times over it feels.)
I know others may not like this, but I actually am pretty interested in seeing them switch it up in bed too. Probably won’t happen, but it would be very satisfactory to me, considering how they feel more unique dynamic wise. I don’t see it enough in te popular BLs.
While I won’t ever bottom in my own sex life, there’s a good bit of personal reasons for that. Generally though, there are plenty of gay men that enjoy the unique ability gay men can do in bed (when it comes to penetrative sex) and that’s switch roles freely and enjoy “both sides of life” lol.
I feel like BL doesn’t explore that enough, and unfortunately it may be due to a heteronormative ideal. Vers men rise up, lol.
Anyways just a silly little ramble. Enjoyed this latest chapter a lot, and I look forward to more of their development.