Another thing, it was so funny how the author made other characters make excuses for Jaeha to match his mistakes and make him pitiful instead of Jaeha explaining why he was such an asshole himself because he was afraid (of being abandoned and for going out the closet I guess)
I mean, nothing bad of being afraid of those things but for God's sake, he was 30, he wasn't a child, even with that, having a mental issue isn't.an excuse to be cruel and awful to the ppl who care about you and its not an excuse for them to forgive you
And this is my third time reading it, the second in the remastered version and the "and if I become weak and run away again, you can just came after me, because I'll only RUN AS FAR AS YOU'RE WILLING TO CHASE ME." Is always rage inducing, like fk Jaeha, you should say that you will not run again and not expecting Eunho will go after you every time like a dog, that's just degrading AAaAAAaas it was supposed to be a romantic reconciliation but that phrase right there ruined it all, whatever, why I am so bother with this even tho I read it so many times? Is should get a life
SO TRUEEEE !!! i'm so tired of seeing trauma or a sad past as a reason to get away from their mistakes like even a person who has mental disorder is still accountable for their actions and doesn't give them a free card to treat others horribly. i don't like the way they're excusing jaeha's actions just because he's hurting and it's fine because it's not the seme acting like a bastard. the double standard is insane here. how can a toxic ml can't get away, but not a toxic mc. they'd be calling it a baddie character
How would you have written it differently?
would u recommend, im pretty sensitive and the mc doesnt sound likeable :(
The story deals with complex and messy human emotions, personally I think it's written well, not every relationship is straightforward and I like that these characters aren't perfect they have their own issues which humanizes them a lot more. I would recommend it simply because I like that in stories myself, but if you're looking for everyone being a boyscout I'd say that's not what this story conveys.
I'm not saying it's bad or not "human" enough, yes, that characters are human and complex, but at the same time they are very fictional, it this would happen in rl at least one of the characters would give the back at Jaeha or Eunho would never be for him every time. I also liked this history, after all I read it a lot of times, but I'm bothered by the fact that everyone "protects" Jaeha like he is a little hurt butterfly who has mental issues, again, having mental issues isn't an excuse for hurting others and that's the overall message of this history "it doesn't matter how much u hurt the ppl u love, they can forgive because ur mental problems", which is not true at all, and I have a lot of mental issues too, that's why it hits so near home
There are unfortunately a lot of people who don't communicate to sort out their problems a lot of them in real life, I don't know why you're assuming otherwise. You're correct in saying having mental issues is not an excuse for being a terrible person, but at the same time people in real life use plenty of excuses to explain terrible behaviour. It's something we see quite often. I don't think it excuses Jaeha, but I have seen a lot of people destroy relationships over not being able to tell their partners things and being too afraid to discuss things, not because they fear violence or retribution but because they fear the situation will change for them and they prefer the status quo. It doesn't make it right, but it makes it common and I like to see that part of the realism reflected in the work, as for people making excuses for him and forgiving him, everyone's different, I wouldn't forgive a cheater for example, but there are people who would.
Yeah u right, still, that doesn't make Jaeha better or more nice, he is just a selfish person which was my point since my first comment. Did i like him? No, would i prefer Eunho ended with another person? Yes, does this mean the story is bad? Nope, i dont know what was ur point in ur answers, i was just kind of bothered of why they were putting "slut Jaeha" as why he has a tendency to be hated, that is again, missing the point of the reality of his character and why the story is such a dragged out love story and that's also the reason why I said Jeaha needed therapy and Eunho self-esteem haha.
Yes, give it a try, if it bothers u too much just don't finish it haha, but sometimes reading something that has a thing u don't like makes u see it from other perspective
Oh sorry I was just trying to explain my take on it.
I mean, i dont care the sexual past of Jaeha, he can do with his body whatever he wants, but everyone is missing why he is such a "hate atracting" person, he is insecure and selfish, he never thought of how everyone around he would feel about his actions or how that actions will have consequences on the people he "loved", he just though of himself all around, even at the end when they get together for real this time, he never really understand how he damaged Eunho.
The fact that his ex-wife told him that she was hurt because he never told her about his past or how he feel and that's why she choose to divorce him felt so real, but Jaeha never apologizes for what he does, he was a indiferent person who was so afraid to be hurt that he preferred hurting the other one, he never though of what his ex-wife, Eunho o Hyunjoon would feel or how they felt but instead he pushed is own perspective of how they would react and since it was hurtful for him, he just tossed them aside in name of "I love them, so I'm not worthy of them", that's bullshit, that's why I hated him all around, he needed therapy, and Eunho self-esteem. Jaeha always thought that Eunho was gonna be there when he call him, even when he didn't answer his call and change his number, Jaeha didn't think Eunho will fall in love with another person or forget about him just because the author wanted it that way, Eunho could have lived happily because time cures everything, the same with Jaeha, he would easily forget about Eunho in a few years like he did with Hye Sun, nobody is irreplaceable, but the fact that these people who hurt each other in a lot of ways still get together is what bothers me so much, Jaeha didn't suffer in terms of being loved, he was just afraid of being thrown away so he was the person to throw away others, Eunho was hurt so many times for a person who didn't care about him until he was alone and he was the only person behind him, maybe it was true love idc, but I still feel Jaeha needed therapy, he hurt Eunho so many times, if the places were reversed I'm pretty sure everyone would tag Eunho as a scum. Still, happy that Eunho find his "happiness" even tho it's not so realistic ヾ(☆▽☆)