True and I agree… but Sejin probably can’t make wise decisions regarding his family in any way… Notice that I used wise and not right… Ido will get his consequences and Sejin will have to face his weaknesses.. IMO its a good plot
I agree, it's a story with a good plot! If it was real life, I'd say, Ido made a mistake as a healthy relationship is all about RESPECT for each other: respect for the partner's opinions, boundaries and emotions. In short, I'm against Ido's authoritarianism in this situation, even taking into consideration his good intentions.
I also agree with you at some point buuut the uke is conditioned to obey what his fake family ask him in particular his fake dad who sell him and abuse himto do, in his case i don't think just talking would have help, he would go to his family to save the because of his fear to loose them even with all the bad treatment he got...a this point i think do it like that is the only way to save him to them because he doesn't even in this situation think of himself as a victim...he really need therapy to face all abuse he receives for them
We are looking at the same situation from different perspectives. Will you trust your partner in the future if he/ she changes your phone number without telling you? I'd say, Ido is solving some of the uke's issues but creates different ones
That why i said i agree with you at some point, and also explain why in that case i understand why he did it.
Spoiler alert
I don't know if you read it but in the first life the uke did kill himself because his partner didn't really care about him and his family abandoned him and put everything on him...if you know this information you understand that what the seme did was indeed bad but necessary because the uke is mentally fragile at the point of killing himself...
I can perfectly understand why Ido did it as well but I don't approve that type of behaviour :)
In the real life mentally stable person's usual reaction to an attack on his personal boundaries from his partner will be "I don't like it. Bye". While mentally fragile people often due to low self esteem can't protect their personal boundaries and might become victims of abusers. But it doesn't mean that pushing them around even with good intentions helps these people solve their psychological issues. It's the opposite, only very respectful attitude to their personal boundaries, transparency in relationship and support in their own decisions help mentally fragile people find strength to confront their weaknesses.
I read about the horrible previous life and know there will be a happy end for Ido & Sejin in this life
I agree with you and like I said previously he needs therapy to be able to live in an healthy relationship...work first in his self esteem and accept that his point of view is important as everyone. Like that I would be able to say "no" for himself
Good intentions, bad delivery, as smb here stated. Parents often make decisions and actions for their kids without letting them know in advance. In adults relationship / partnership it's a direct road to disaster. In healthy relationship partners should communicate to each other before taking actions as both adults have equal right to know what's happening and be able to take the consequences of future actions/decisions. They are not kids, they should not be manipulated even with good intentions.