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Oh god, this was NEVER an excuse. This is an explanation as to why he acts like that. + I also want to point out it's hard to be "different" when the dysfunctional home becomes a normal for you. Even then people like him need help, which he never got ( you can say that coach was there but he was still bullied by his peers cementing his thought of "winners gets respect").
I mean a person can grow up in a dysfunctional home and still choose to be different from the examples they were given, so this is no excuse for me. You don’t have to carry forward what hurt you.