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Nah it may seem that way right now but ml already likes mc during that time

Yeah I can see care but it’s not only in this story/bl/manga it’s and all around problem and like I said sex as avoidance of emotion is an unhealthy coping mechanism it literally wires the brain to search for that feeling again so sadness will equal sex for chemical reward the whole make you forget is problematic in itself self because pushing down or covering up isn’t healing

they did not go all the way, ml helped mc release and didn't get his own. in the novel mc said it helped him forget about the horrors of his past. im not in the position to say this but, ml can't also force mc to open up, right? ik it's giving modern problems, requires modern solutions—rest assured it is consented by the mc.

So it’s like you guys are like ice-skating around everything I like the story I like the characters. I just don’t like when authors use sex in this manner. I don’t like when people do it in real life, and He literally doesn’t respond to his questions and make the somber atmosphere sexual when there was no real reason to and comfort isn’t forcing someone to open up it could be reassurance, letting them know they have people on their side talking about their past is only one part they could talk about their future or how they see them as a person or plainly just say how the painting makes him feel if he likes it and how he got why why it’s in his personal collection it’s sexual comfort is lazy and like I said forgetting is not healing. I’m forgetting for one second and I’m using sex as emotional avoidance, that’s not healthy I think because you guys like the story and the ML you’re refusing to see the point and that it’s not just a problem in this story using some emotions for sexual advance is taking advantage of them in a vulnerable state or teaching somebody that sex could make you forget about your emotions and feelings is teaching them unhealthy coping mechanism and pity sex is morally bankrupt and for all of or any of those to happen on your first time literally will chemically scar your brain when you have sex for the first time that is the first time you’re feeling a lot of chemicals and your oxytocin levels will reach one of the highest they will ever and that’s why a lot of people become attached to the person they lose their virginity to now when negative things situations or emotions get involved it changes reaction to the chemicals and sexual stimulation it’s just really not a good thing to do to your brain especially a brain that’s already experiencing sadness and trauma

Like I truly don’t get what y’all’s point is like just be he likes him doesn’t mean it’s cool to fuck him bc he’s sad it teaches sexual dependence and emotional avoidance like I would never witness someone having a severe and debilitating panic attack then be like yeah my dick will make them feel better like it doesn’t erase the trauma it’s an unhealthy coping mechanism trying to rewire emotions it’s not right to teach people that it’s not right to engage in pity sex it’s not right to use somebody’s vulnerable state for sexual advances if you can’t communicate or be a supportive person or have the ability to comfort them you shouldn’t involve yourself sexually comforting someone doesn’t mean you have to be their therapist or friend really it’s sometimes just being there or honest or nonjudgmental you reassure them you don’t force anything you don’t even have to talk about their feelings you can try and relate or encourage them or show them they have worth and caring loved ones talk about their future or how you feel to have them in your life your 1st impression their passion or drive their personality or professionalism and if your not good at talking and you give physical comfort that’s fine physical doesn’t mean sexual like you can hold someone’s hand help them breathe give them a hug a pat on the head or the back lay with them it’s not just sex and that shouldn’t be the main option like if he’s not equipped to handle it then he shouldn’t especially when he could’ve had the professor come get him or let him go home or called someone for him it lazy or wrong like sure sex can be comforting but to jump to that with someone you’ve not been the best to and sending mixed signals and not romantically involved with is crazy and a cruel thing to do especially if it’s that persons 1st sexual encounter
And this isn’t just about this story it literally happens all across media books movies tv shows manga whatever and I dislike it sex isn’t a way to avoid conflict or communication I don’t like it in any form I do like this story and I can see that they already both care and have some feelings for each other but I don’t like this plot point

, wow that was a lot

that's a lot bro can't even get myself to read all that

I agree with both of your posts. I really do think this is a well done story so far but the sexual turn really did put me off and wasn’t necessary to go that route. He was in an emotional distraught place which, especially for someone in their 30s, should have easily been picked up on. Getting intimate doesn’t help either forgetting anything and the problem is still there that needs to be sorted through. It’s an easy way to push the plot forward so in that regard I see why it’s done but it always feels like lazy rushed plot filler. I’m currently reading the novel and haven’t made it to this part yet but I do overall like the ML and it’s a very good read