PREACH IT GURL!!
You are telling me TJ had 19 years and suddenly when a new man comes into Ians, life he gets a wake up call. Be so for real now!
20 years of guilt trapping, manipulation, only toxicity nothing good happened to Ian in those 20 years
The way TJ stans look past all of that? Its so ridiculous. It's giving that girl who went on Dr Phil years ago and said her boyfriends loves her because he abuses her.
18-Year-Old: 'If Your Boyfriend Hits You, It's A Sign Of Love' - Youtube title
Not them saying Tj was Ian destination only for Ian to flatly say he is not going to TJ in the recent chapters☠
Right! If he outright he rejected Jo he could have said he chose TJ. There are so many ways to interpret his words.
I was honestly hesitant to write this comment. I’ve seen so many arguments from TG fans—especially when they clash with Joianstan—and the same point always comes up: that TG and YW share a long history, that they can’t possibly leave each other, and that what they have is love.
But personally… I’ve never really felt it that way.
Maybe I’m wrong, but sometimes it feels less like love and more like attachment. And those two things aren’t the same. Attachment can make you overlook someone’s mistakes. It can make you afraid of losing them, afraid of what your life would look like without them. It convinces you that you can’t let go.
But sometimes, when you finally do let go, something unexpected happens. Instead of heartbreak, you feel relief. And in that moment, you start to realize that what you held onto so tightly might not have been love after all—just attachment.
Of course, that’s only my opinion… but it’s the feeling I can’t seem to shake.
Real love is letting each other grow even when you’re apart and pushing one another to become better versions of yourselves rather than caging each other in a relationship just to lick each other’s wounds.
You read my mind.
that what i alway feel too...i think they love each other romanticly before they joining the gang...and it change after that...the attachment that i see as trauma bonding is the only things that make them cant let go of each other...TJ fear of abandonment acting out in the way that make Ian give in..becasue Ian's fear is him being the cause of someone distress especially someone that he care and love...other than that sometime Ian feel good seing TJ in destress needed him and after that him feel bad about himself ...this is all come to self destruction... that why he choose to leave from the beginning
they call this.."their fate" act like there no other choice except keep licking eachother wound, many time TJ make Ian feel guilt and in debt just because he dont want to feel abandoned...and sadder than that they are aware what they have done to eachother...i mean the damage is huge...how can someone start fresh from this..
Exactly!
Their environment never made it possible for them to be together tho :’(
More like Ian's toxic past stopped them
I honestly can’t understand the mindset of people who claim that his love for Jo is “unreal” or “impossible” simply because he spent only a short time with him—yet insist that what he has with Tg must be real just because they share a long history. What kind of logic is that?
Love has never been measured by the length of time two people have known each other. There are people who meet and recognize their soulmate instantly—people who get married within a month because they simply know. Are we supposed to wait a million years before we’re allowed to call something love?
If anything, time often does the opposite. Love can fade; what remains after years is often affection, familiarity, or habit.
YW and Tg had countless chances—both in the past and in the present—to confess their feelings to each other. And yet, neither of them did.
But with Jo, something different happened. He actually confessed his love to him. And then he left the hospital without responding to tg confession. That silence, that departure—maybe that is his answer.
So I truly don’t understand how anyone can be so certain that Tg and YW are the inevitable endgame after a confession like that.