They def both need therapy, individual and couple lol. I can see both sides of their thinking (one who has been far used to his way of living as a quiet queer person and the other who wants to be out and proud about his relationship).
However, I don’t want to discount Garam’s very real fear of being outed. Not wanting to be outed is not always going to end up being internalized homophobia (even if that might be the case here). It’s likely a combination of things (fear of social isolation from his classmates, ostracizing, fear of physical safety, how it’ll impact future career options).
If it was just Jaehyuk wanting to out himself, then fine whatever. As he said, Garam doesn’t get the right to decide whether or not something affects him. HOWEVER! Trying to out someone as gay without even a discussion or agreement beforehand with your partner is ABSOLUTELY out of the question and is hypocritical of Jaehyuk’s own statement. He was deciding for Garam that it wasn’t something that would affect them, which is clearly not true from Garam’s perspective.
They’ve got a serious issue with communication (as we’ve recurrently seen throughout their relationship) for sure
His bf and his bf’s friends were openly homophobic towards him and laughed about gay people… it’s not coming from inside the house babe. Jaehyuk is the problem here. They’ve only been dating a few months but before that, it was a few months of harassment and abuse and being treated like a convenient fuck toy that couldn’t get pregnant so could be used whenever jaehyuk wanted. Just because garam forgave him, doesn’t mean he forgot any of that. And regardless of all of that, trying to forcibly out your partner instead of having a conversation about when and if they’d ever feel comfortable and safe enough to come out to those closest to them is just downright disgusting. Garam is a better person than me because I would have slapped him so hard, he’d see Adam and Eve take a bite of the apple if he ever tried to out me like that.
IM CRYINF LMAOOO SEE ADAM AND EVE GOT ME FCKN DEADDDD
Garam needs therapy, seriously. While being afraid is understandable, what he is doing is projecting his idea of a straight's perfect life onto his boyfriend and it's super toxic. He isn't listening and refuse to accept that his boyfriend actually truly love him while believing he know best what would make him happy in life despite being told he want the opposite.
He totally internalized homophobia.