The both of them are so hot tempered, when they talk they get mad and pissed they cant have a constructive conversation, ofc all of that can be fixed but ig that’s the reason that even when they do address stuff they fight
So true
Well tbf, garam has a hard time talking about things that bother him, especially about his relationship with jaehyuk because of the traume he has. Its why he hesitates when talking about his ex or when wanting to give the rings he bought for jeahyuk. And as far as I remember, this is garam's first serious relationship after the thing with his ex while jaehyuk had many relationships before with women. Ig the difference in experience made the communication unbalanced for them, that's why they have issues with it. Just my take on it though.
Yeah I can see that. While I'd suggest jaehyuks relationships weren't this serious with anyone else, it still stands that they are inexperienced and bad at this. Heck I've been married for nearly 8 years and I still struggle to communicate sometimes. I just would never have moved out before discussing things... even just packing a bag to stay away for a day, I just couldn't have done that to my husband at any stage of our 12 year relationship. Which is probably why I'm going harder on Garam - it feels a bit cruel to do to your partner when the main issue is your own insecurities.
I just think in a reasonable relationship, you'd say something like 'i am so happy you're comfortable enough to come out, that's lovely but I'm not ready. I don't know if I'll ever be, but i do know I want to be with you, so can we please come up with a story together that makes sense and has no holes so we don't get caught out again for now.' Garams need for privacy is more important than jaehyuks need to be out - for now.
Then Garam could possibly address his worries that jaehyuk is going to lose out on things he doesn't necessarily have to because he could be more bi than gay. I guess they are valid fears and valid that you're scared to stay longer, fall more, just for him to change his mind, but that's any and all relationships! Plenty of hetero people have the same fears and that does happen unfortunately- people change their minds. Trusting someone to love you forever is hard, but constantly expecting them to leave is more likely to cause them to leave! Being with someone that insecure is exhausting. Therapy is needed or something serious talking and introspection for both of them.
I think they're old enough to know better, but maybe I'm wrong?