Im so sorry to hear this, that sounds so cruel, you dont deserve that especially since you’re putting in effort and care about others. I think you should continue being open and the way you are rn and also not let this get to you.
At the end of the day you cant control what other people do but if they actually care about you they’ll show up as well. if they don’t then at least you’ll know this was not on you and you tried. So even if you decide later that you dont wanna have anything to do with those people you’ll know you weren’t the one who caused it. Right now keep trying, but don’t let it get to a point that it stats harming you mentally and you feel drained.
DO NOT let this prevent you from making new friends and going out with your family or even having mini-dates with yourself. Don’t let it mess with you and make you think that there aren’t genuine people out there or that you are somehow less valuable. Dont let them take that from you. Time spent alone is still time spent with the world and you are so loved and im giving you the biggest fattest virtual hug.
You don’t need to make an effort with real friends. They’re the ones you can MIA for five years, and when you meet again, it’s like those years were just in parentheses, you simply pick up where you left off. True friends don’t require constant effort or maintenance. I don’t have many friends, but the ones I do have are good people, they make you feel comfortable. Don’t feel hurt by your current situation; just let them go, you will make new friends along the way. Loneliness isn’t so bad, it gives you time to grow and to think. I love solo traveling.
and youre definitely not overthinking if it’s come to a point where you start reminiscing about all the birthday parties you’ve been at for other people. Im so sorry to hear this. I hope you have a support system at home.
And OH MY GOD SINCE YOURE STARTING COLLEGE PLEASE TALK TO PEOPLE AND INITATE CONVOS WITH PPL LIKE GENUINELY DO NOT BE SHY THAT WAS MY BIGGEST BEEFSTEAK WHEN I STARTED UNI i was clammed up by the buttcheeks omfg.. im just happy ure starting college cuz thats where youll meet new ppl but you HAVE TO talk to people plsssss do not be shy !!!!!!!
I hope you find a friend that love and cherish you as much as you do and don't worry you're not the only person who felt that way I have a similar situation like you and I also can't get over it I love my friends so much but I know I'm just a friend of a friend to them
so I try to forsake my feelings for my old friends and love myself more like doing something you used to love and find some new friends by my own effort not from someone drag me to their friends again
Lastly I hope you the best and lived
Sorry about my grammar I'm not native English speaker
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hiiiii, thank you so so much for all your sweet words, reading them made me feel so so much better guys, and to those experiencing something similar i hope you guys feel better and make deserving friends as well all the love to you, AND A BIG FAT HUG HEHEH, thank you for making the time to make me feel better ily all. (●'◡'●)ノ

hi guys i know yall are not interested in some lame problem i have but i just want someone to hear me out man. so basically im moving to a new place and also about to start college, before i do i wanted to meet with my friends and people i knew so i asked everyone and tried to make plans and then i slowly realised im putting in so much efforts to not get the same back and im not even getting the same efforts back like everyone seems so uninterested, the thing im most upset about is that i have been part of surprises and birthday videos and stuff and ive never had that done to me i honestly just want friends who care about me as well and not just someone as a second option and im just so hurt because theyre going out with others but not giving me the time and i just feel so lonely, sorry for the dump lolol, but i dont have anyone to talk to about these things or maybe im just overthinking oh god i end my yap here thank you