It’s cuz he is a newbie and knows nothing about bdsm until he was taught the rules of it but he apparently left a few things out.
Bc he's not enforcing anything play related, he's going easy on him by just limiting their sessions to a little spice. For someone who's a complete beginner, if a person showed up with a bible worth of information regarding dynamics, plays, kinks and probs it can totally scare you out, specially since a lot of people suck at this type of communication bc of how awkward it feels to talk abt something so "taboo".
For a lot of people they think easing someone into it instead of having awkward talk is the way to go.
In he's case it he took this route with Hoseob in fear of overwhelming him at first, but then it turn to him neglecting his responsibilities. Is worse bc by not having clear communication, he's been unconsciously putting expectations on Hoseob, that he has no way of meeting since he's not informed properly
mioro explained it perfectly! I'll add that I think the friend meant by going easy on him and relaxing some rules that he would usually be strict about made the relationship confusing to hoseob, who thought it was just a partnership, not a romantic relationship. however bec jungwon caught feelings he neglected his duties as a dom by being lax about his rules and not explaining things well enough which put hoseob in a pickle
I feel like they used the wrong wording bc it eludes to him needing to be more strict during sessions instead of informing Hoseob about dynamics
Yeah, but how does that tie to “I was too easy on you”
To me that seems like a communication issue and not going easy on someone tho. Like that doesn’t really have correlation to me. They did have plays and have sessions, not communicating boundaries, structures and rules doesn’t have anything to do with being hard or easy on someone (to me)
Exactly
I feel like they should’ve worded it differently then. Communicating rules, boundaries and structures is not the same as “going easy” on someone. That just seems like saying that Hoseob didn’t know cause the plays weren’t extreme enough
Then its just a translation error or something, not all word can be translated with the proper nuance, grammar and accurate meaning.
How is him not explaining basics and the distinctions between relationships a consequence of going “too easy” on him? Am I missing smth here. I’m starting to understand this story less and less. Can someone explain? How did that conclusion come to be???