I completely agree this is the shit they warn u about in those anti grooming presentations in school. Im curious if you could change their dynamic, age, starting relationship, how would you change it so that it still fits within the story and there is still chances for the characters to interact but there not such an obvious power imbalance?
Saaaaame it gives me the ick.
the idea that the brain finishes developing at 25 is a myth, it actually continues developing ur whole life
omg THANK YOU i thought i was crazy for finding it weird bruh
honestly even if the roles were the same, if they had kept him maybe, say, 24-25 and the teacher 30, it wouldve been normal. the only thing thay the fishy wouldnt have been accustomed to is the outside world, all while his brain is completely developed!
I was thinking about abd they coukda done sonething similar to college programs. Where when you have a major, like a foreign language, that would best be studied in another country (or something along the lines) you can go live with families or people who open their homes up to foreign students to help them adjust and learn the culture (my German teacher did that). That way the cat mother f*cker wouldn't have been the legal guardian but still someone who fishy boi would live with and be guided by. Also home boy being older. There would still be a bit of a power imbalance but much less so and they would have been able to handle it better
There's been a LOT od debate about them from what I've read in the comments and replies. Personally I am more with the people who aren't fully for their relationship (I do over all like the story). While 5 years apart isn't much and I've been with multiple people who are more than 5 years older than me it's the specific ages and contexts or their situation that get me. First of all major brain development usually ends at age 20 but over all brain development stops at 25. So Arashi, likely, hasn't finished with major brain development and is going to date someone who has a fully developed brain. Also people are saying that Arashi is too immature for his age, he's f*cking 19. No he's not. He's barely an adult. Sure, maturity varies but he's still very young. He is, however, very NIAVE for his age. A 19 year old is much more vulnerable than a 25 year old. Also for most people those are very different points in life. We also have to consider that Arashi is from a different culture with very different experiences so he's pretty vulnerable and influencable right now. There's also the fact that the doctor started off as his guardian and his teacher. Those are two different positions of authority and influence. He may not be abusing his power per say but the inherent power imbalance for that relationship dynamic isn't good for a romantic relationship where you should have equal power. And people where saying home boy has a doctorate. He is young and that's kinda the point. The drive to achieve that so quickly and young and the maturity required and really most of the nuances about it just make me uncomfortable about this relationship. That's a very different point of life to be at. Arashi is 19 and exploring a world he's not seen before being guided by an older much more experienced person that WANTS him, not just to help. That's litteraly a power imbalance