am i the only one that feels like it's weird to ask a gay couple who's the top and who's t...

it’s definitely a little strange but not as much when it’s another gay man asking. some people mind, some people don’t.

I think it's strange that when a heterosexual person asks, there's always this morbid notion that if you're the bottom, then you're considered the woman in the relationship. That's a disgusting way of thinking because every couple is different, and no role should be defined by other people. But I think, and this is my opinion, that among gay or queer people, the question isn't so out of place. Obviously, it might seem strange or annoying to some people, and they have every right to maintain their privacy. It goes without saying that heterosexual couples aren't asked about their sexual preferences, but I saw several queer content videos on social media where gay people were asked if they were tops or bottoms, and they all answered without a problem. I think it depends a lot on the person, how the question is asked, and the relationship they have. And I think that among gay people, it's a topic that's discussed beforehand regarding their preference. It goes without saying that in reality, things aren't as clearly defined as in BL, where the bottom will always be the bottom and the same goes for the top. In reality, being a "verse" or "switch" isn't that strange as we see in many manhwas, there are people who don't define themselves as one or the other, but it's understandable that BL, being content created mostly by women for women, has certain roles that are more defined.

as someone queer i would feel uncomfortable if straight people asked because most straight people perceive the role of bottom as inherently feminine and often push heterosexual standards onto the physical relationships queer people experience. But it's not weird coming from another queer person because MOST queer people don't do allat (sadly some of them do) also a lot of straight people have weird ass fetishes and fantasies about queer people, which is another reason it makes it uncomfortable.