Han Garam is behaving how a lot of people who are intelligent do when they've been socially conditioned to live in fear after being raised by toxic people and/or in a toxic environment. He is afraid that his and Yoon Jaehyuk's love and/or relationship will prove detrimental to YJ, and since YJ is kind of a ditz, he's arguably justified in fearing the loud mouthed himbo will fail to demonstrate situational awareness at a crucial moment and accidentally sabotage his own future. Being told by the people in his life that he / his sexuality is the cause of their pain or misery has obviously very negatively influenced HG's perception of himself and the impact he might have on anyone he tries to openly date. I agree that from the perspective of a healthy, normal adult with critical thinking skills, the way HG is handling the situation seems unnecessarily cowardly.
But given he hasn't had many (if any) legitimately loving (platonic or romantic) relationships, it makes sense he's become paralyzed by fear.
In his mind, no matter how he chooses to proceed, both of them will almost certainly get hurt (and because he loves YJ, he wants to minimize the damage he foresees himself causing).
Even though HG secretly longs to be loved by YJ (exactly the way YJ wants to freely love him), HG has been conditioned to view that longing as selfish and problematic.
TL;DR: Given HG has never been properly loved, of course he won't know how to healthily express or receive love. But he's very smart and will almost surely end up wising up and letting himself and YJ live happily ever after.
Also, don't forget they're in college, recently had to deal with a legal issue, and HG recently started a new job. His stress is probably off the charts, right now. Cut the poor guy some slack.
Han Garam is behaving how a lot of people who are intelligent do when they've been socially conditioned to live in fear after being raised by toxic people and/or in a toxic environment.
He is afraid that his and Yoon Jaehyuk's love and/or relationship will prove detrimental to YJ, and since YJ is kind of a ditz, he's arguably justified in fearing the loud mouthed himbo will fail to demonstrate situational awareness at a crucial moment and accidentally sabotage his own future.
Being told by the people in his life that he / his sexuality is the cause of their pain or misery has obviously very negatively influenced HG's perception of himself and the impact he might have on anyone he tries to openly date.
I agree that from the perspective of a healthy, normal adult with critical thinking skills, the way HG is handling the situation seems unnecessarily cowardly.
But given he hasn't had many (if any) legitimately loving (platonic or romantic) relationships, it makes sense he's become paralyzed by fear.
In his mind, no matter how he chooses to proceed, both of them will almost certainly get hurt (and because he loves YJ, he wants to minimize the damage he foresees himself causing).
Even though HG secretly longs to be loved by YJ (exactly the way YJ wants to freely love him), HG has been conditioned to view that longing as selfish and problematic.
TL;DR: Given HG has never been properly loved, of course he won't know how to healthily express or receive love. But he's very smart and will almost surely end up wising up and letting himself and YJ live happily ever after.
Also, don't forget they're in college, recently had to deal with a legal issue, and HG recently started a new job. His stress is probably off the charts, right now. Cut the poor guy some slack.