I haven't really commented the last few chapters because I've just been annoyed and frustrated by JH and his really selfish/ inconsiderate behavior and I was tired of saying the same stuff over and over. And JH was definitely acting immaturely through all his banging and slamming the car door and internally making Garam's health issues about him (which they probably were but I'm tired of his entitled straight boy self-flagellation crap). BUT the fact that it seems like something clicked for him in a way that he finally heard what Garam has been trying to talk to him about for over a month AND respected Garam's request and boundaries (again, finally after a month) on his own is a good sign to me.
It's similar to when he realized he had feelings for Garam but that he was pushing and hurting Garam in the process of trying to show him he wanted to be with him genuinely. He didn't learn a ton from that because he eventually got what he wanted but it is a situation that he understood and felt remorse for when he saw how much he was hurting someone he cared about. To me, someone coming to a realization or understanding someone else's feelings on their own and choosing to act differently because of it, is a step in the right direction. And while JH keeps taking things too far because of his rich straight boy entitlement, I hope that this situation is finally gonna help him get his shit together.
I hope JH is able to respect Garam's space, let Garam come to him (like Garam said he would and wanted to), actually have those convos Garam wants to have with him and finally listen to what Garam is actually telling him. And also not put Garam on the spot with ultimatums or put his selfish expectations on Garam to have the relationship JH thinks they should have.
And oh man, please let Garam figure his shit out too. He needs to figure out how to let someone love him even if it's scary and trust JH with his heart. His boundaries about not wanting to come out are super valid, I totally get it. And JH has to rebuild a lot of trust he lost through pushing boundaries over and over. But there are definitely aspects of their relationship where Garam is the one holding himself back because he's scared and doesn't believe in JH's feelings. I do think they have a lot of potential and I do think they can balance each other but they have a lot of work to do, especially JH. After the end of this chapter I actually have a little hope for that.
I haven't really commented the last few chapters because I've just been annoyed and frustrated by JH and his really selfish/ inconsiderate behavior and I was tired of saying the same stuff over and over. And JH was definitely acting immaturely through all his banging and slamming the car door and internally making Garam's health issues about him (which they probably were but I'm tired of his entitled straight boy self-flagellation crap). BUT the fact that it seems like something clicked for him in a way that he finally heard what Garam has been trying to talk to him about for over a month AND respected Garam's request and boundaries (again, finally after a month) on his own is a good sign to me.
It's similar to when he realized he had feelings for Garam but that he was pushing and hurting Garam in the process of trying to show him he wanted to be with him genuinely. He didn't learn a ton from that because he eventually got what he wanted but it is a situation that he understood and felt remorse for when he saw how much he was hurting someone he cared about. To me, someone coming to a realization or understanding someone else's feelings on their own and choosing to act differently because of it, is a step in the right direction. And while JH keeps taking things too far because of his rich straight boy entitlement, I hope that this situation is finally gonna help him get his shit together.
I hope JH is able to respect Garam's space, let Garam come to him (like Garam said he would and wanted to), actually have those convos Garam wants to have with him and finally listen to what Garam is actually telling him. And also not put Garam on the spot with ultimatums or put his selfish expectations on Garam to have the relationship JH thinks they should have.
And oh man, please let Garam figure his shit out too. He needs to figure out how to let someone love him even if it's scary and trust JH with his heart. His boundaries about not wanting to come out are super valid, I totally get it. And JH has to rebuild a lot of trust he lost through pushing boundaries over and over. But there are definitely aspects of their relationship where Garam is the one holding himself back because he's scared and doesn't believe in JH's feelings. I do think they have a lot of potential and I do think they can balance each other but they have a lot of work to do, especially JH. After the end of this chapter I actually have a little hope for that.