One: you have to remember that they are korean and their culture is different.
And two: even putting the first aside people do change over time and it's ok to talk to family members after a while. You don't have to forgive them. You don't have to reconcile. You don't have to stay in touch.
I don't think the autor is gonna make them make up but talking about your feelings helps to keep the past in the past.
I mean I too am from Asia, so I do understand. But, as society is changing, accommodating more towards the mental health and development, in art we ought to have the liberty to portray otherwise.
As for 2: well yeah I guess that may happen, but cannot agree with that. The notion "because they are family" is often overused not for good thing but rather when bad things happen! Particularly, adults like parents being irresponsibile, violent and when they get old, they regret and expects to be forgiven... naa. Having a house, getting free money, and even being disgustingly self-centric until you are conveniently old and now you are victim! Nope!
I totaly understand. When i broke contact with a family member my mom also nagged me for a long time to just forgive them "because they're family". And yes, the character of hyesungs mom is very unlikeble but i still strongly think that talking (as much as it's possible) can help to move on. I also did that and today i don't even think about them anymore.
I see! I guess it does some good to you, like helping you move on from the regret, sadness and all that was caused by those people...if that's how a victim finds closure I guess that's doable
Agree with all of you. And not to trauma dump but my mom threw a brick at me, thankfully it landed on my brick chest. Even today I’m taking care of her, she is old. I hate that it’s hard to let go of her. I’m just hoping she passes away peacefully so I don’t feel the guilt anymore. I hope in this fiction the author cuts her off, come on! I didn’t come for realism.
You see, this is what I was talking about! When they are fully functional adult, I think subconsciously they "believe" that old-age will make them get way with things. So, they, the bad people, they learn ZERO accountability. If they knew "just because they're family" things Won't be just forgotten and forgiven any more socially, perhaps they would have learnt to be more responsible.
Yes. My parents have shamelessly said: I took care of you, I birthed you, and you should help us when we are old. It’s only right.
It’s okay to do that, but abandoning (or just toxic in some situations) and still expecting your child to see you is insane, no? Filial piety creates a harmful environment and cycle. I would take care of my parents without any resentment if they never harmed. Even if I have forgiven them for the sake of my own emotion regulation/to move on, I remember everything.
It doesn’t feel worth fighting old parents anymore, so I understand why Hyesung is deciding to talk with her. It’s been years since the last reunification. She’s getting old. It doesn’t mean he will forget and forgive, closure at best.
And old age do unfortunately get away with things in culture. We are expected to respect old people just because they are older. Somehow being older = wiser, but that’s far from reality.
Look social inclusion has grown a lot and growing everyday. At least, in modern times, we are familiar with the notion of abuse, assult, consent things like that, which were so foreign right!
Parents used to the demigods like they are barepy human, above all the criticism and wrong doings.
Things have changed now. And, I often wish art will at least promot such things you know, coz art has always been the language of rebellion, vitality, and bitter truth.
So, regardless one's culture, in art I hope authors qould prompt evolution while portraying reality alongside.
Eh my parents aren’t in America and live like traditional family, they don’t know the outside world. It’s a bit sad. I don’t mind some realism, I just hope author doesn’t make Hyesung forgive the mother so easily like letting her back into his life.
Yeah, Let's hope that
See! This is what I feared to happen! Why is it really necessary to have a forced and absolutely unacceptable. Just because someone is parent or child or sibling...shouldn't just be forgiven when it is convenient for the perpetrators to say sorry. And after actually messing up more than once!
Why cannot we just let them be and move on, instead of insisting the victims reconciling both Byul and the husband indirectly guilt-tripping him, even as unintentional it was.
We may move on, saying hapoy ending for all and it's just manhwa, not real life... but still, I cannot really help but connect it with real life scenario!