What if you’re in a relationship but u are hesitant to be with him due to financial reasons and religion reasons (my parents believe in Christianity and one of the priests said tht my bf is not the guy). And u are thinking to break it off, but u really like the guy. Although now u r seeing some things u dislike but it seems normal for a bf to not be perfect. Shall i continue the relationship? Oh, and i wanna see how things go but im 25 and want to get married before 30. -so i need to decide so i can start looking around
Asking cause it seems like u are really smart about this psychology thing.
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or they can just be plain lunatic who has no better things to do in life
For those of you that are confused why these weirdos keep reading and hating I pulled some information.
When someone says they dislike something but constantly return to it, it typically points to a psychological paradox like ambivalence, the "hate-watching/playing" phenomenon, or a hidden emotional reward. They are caught between a logical frustration and a subconscious need.
Several primary reasons explain this contradictory behavior:
Cognitive Dissonance: Their beliefs and desires are clashing. They might rationally believe they should dislike a habit, a toxic relationship, or a time-wasting mobile game, but their brain craves the stimulation or dopamine it provides.
The "Pleasure of Hating": Expressed by essayist William Hazlitt, this is the psychological relief or sick satisfaction we get from tearing something apart. People often return to bad movies, internet drama, or frustrating hobbies just to vent, which can oddly feel cathartic or boost their self-esteem.
Craving Predictability: Familiarity is incredibly comforting to the human brain, even if that familiarity is negative. It takes less mental effort to return to a reliable annoyance than to explore something completely new.
Seeking Validation or Change: Sometimes people complain about something (like a frustrating restaurant or a habit of their partner's) hoping that their continuous vocalization will prompt the object or person to change to their liking.
Hopefully this will help those of you who have trouble understanding these people.