NOOO this was NOT cheating!! I know there’s going to be some absolute loser who thinks h...

Two things can be true at once
He was abused yes
He also intended to cheat
Going to a bar, flirting with other guys… thats all cheating too. Cheating isnt limited to SEX only

im pretty sure being raped/assulted is far worse than cheating on someone

except it's not comparison, the uke did cheat emotionally out of revenge on the ml (as chapter 16 which is skipped here showed us), by ignoring his calls/letting a man continuously hitting on him, but he's still a victim of rape, he's just not a perfect victim, sleep with someone while they're drunk and out of their mind is rape, but what he did at the bar consider cheating sadly

What part of “two things can be true ar once” did you not GET

I'm genuinely curious, how many people do you know in the kink community in real life? How many polyamorous or ENM people do you know? Not to say cheating can't exist in those dynamics bc it very much can. But it feels like you're missing some very real possible context when you apply that line of thinking to this story.

Not all bdsm ppl are polyamorous? Tf? Im curious how many ppl DO YOU know?
This is a bdsm monogamic couple specifically in this story. So yes, it is cheating. Dont try to excuse betraying someone’s trust by pushing that onto the “bdsm community”
Thats literally harmful to the whole fucking community

I know that not all people in the kink scene are polyamorous or enm. And not all polyamorous or enm people are kinky. That's why I wrote two separate sentences asking two separate questions. I asked about both because your descriptions of "intent to cheat" and "cheating emotionally" were things I felt I could give perspective on from multiple, separate angles.

I've been in the kink scene for over a decade, I'm an advocate and an educator for my local kink community, I volunteer at a local nonprofit that helps sex workers who are/ were trafficked so they can reclaim their assets and rebuild their careers in sex work, a majority of my best friends are in polycules, I'm currently in multiple solo poly dynamics both in and out of kink, and I'm romantically monogamous when in a relationship. I'm not saying all that to be an ass-hole, btw, I'm saying all that because they're true things about me and I know what I'm talking about. Which is why I wanted to understand where you were coming from in comparison to me, whether we both have experience in these scenes or not.

I asked those questions not to attack you or judge any of the communities I am actively a part of, but because I wanted to understand what your line of thinking may be and if it was influenced by either of those community perspectives. I know we've been having a heated back and forth across the comments but i'm sorry if I made you genuinely upset. I just wanted to share some thoughts to balance out the perspective you shared for those reading the comments so they could make their own judgement calls. We're clearly passionate in different ways on the same topic and that's okay.