Lmfao he is a toxic mess but on a brighter note he applied jo's advice on his relation with tj "when things gets complicated you talk things out instead of avoiding'" this is the first time we see them arguing and voicing out what they want from each other .
Also notice how jo asked him to move in with him and he was a bit hesitant thinking it will be best decision for all three of them blah blah but with tj ,ian himself asked him to run away with him because all he wanted to escape gang and start a quiet life with tj .

Not ian starting life with both men like he said blah blah things to jo now to tj