Personally, I think he's mellowed out A LOT. I expected him to kill Mahad before rushing Kay out, but he didn't. He also asked for Kay's opinion more and more, and he respected some of them. Like ik the bar was deeper than hell, but come on, it's barely in hell right now
Also, I'm surprised at the women too. Really love them like you mentioned and I did hope Helena would make it out.. but on the other hand, it's too weird and too blatant to just be a gag atp. I'm thinking it might have sth to do with Kay's mysterious past.

While it is refreshing to see an immoral character not do a complete 180° after meeting their partner, Zigril takes it too the extreme.
Everytime he does that I just wish Kay would pack his stuff and elope with a woman– yk I've observed that the women in this series are very very open-minded which is funny asf. Like, you'd expect people to show discomfort towards queers but then the women around Kay are not afraid to pursue him even with the threat of his notorious tyrant of a husband!
I'm obsessed with their wit and courage,during the Helena arc I used to pray for her life because she was BOLD. Love that for her, even the red haired maid in the recent chapter? Shooting her shot in the open where anyone could see? Unbelievable. Back to the topic–
Zigril has mellowed out a lot after marriage, but not as much as I had expected. 3 years is not that long of a period but his love for Kay doesn't seem to have lessened so why doesn't he fix his behaviour too