https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/you_will_hate_me/
(ml has been obsessed/in love with mc since early school years)
"Red mansion" No rape, you'll be giving it side eyes, but worth it read to the end, you probably will hate the male lead, I do too , mc is the one obsessed
"Unchanged man" It's right now my top 5 Bls, no rape, but abuse here and there, you'll love the suspense and the characters, male lead is the one obsessed
LMAOOO Nono ok so like I can’t do like the obsession where the ml locks up the character and does some weird kinky stuff like breaks his ankles so he can’t get away obsessive.. I like it when the ml is obsessed but wants to be in a relationship and wants to be fluffy with that person yk? hope this helps!
Oh my God I'm sorry I misunderstood your definition of obsessed I apologize soo bad the ones I recommended definitely had non con, hmm the ones I can think of is like "Unsleep" It's a quirky beginning like the both almost hate each other and the ml gets attached afterwards
"Melting point"
"Happy together" I feel like you've read these tho, since they are popular

so im a picky reader and i want like a specific type of BL read
i like it when the top is OBSESSED with the bottom ( or flipped around and bottom obsessed with top ), FULL COLOR, ART IS GOOD, not lots of abuse or SA but that’s kinda pushing it, I hate when it’s a super slow burn I like it when it kinda gets to the point but I don’t mind reading 20+ chapters to get to the point! (⌒▽⌒)