I mean, it didn't seem like MC had any interest in any BDSM play before ML asked him to choke him. Even if he was also seemingly enjoying choking him, atm he perceives BDSM as violence cuz of the friend's situation, so he's not ok with choking ML atm
What if instead of a nice tight hug there was a nice hand hugging the neck... Like just cuz he's in love the sex has to be vanilla..? I feel baited