I completely agree. One of the things I hate about BL is the double standard when it comes to red flags. An omega/uke can behave horribly and people will bend over backwards to justify it, but let an alpha/seme do the exact same thing and suddenly everyone is calling them toxic and unforgivable.
A red flag is a red flag, regardless of their role or position. Dane is a red flag, period. If he were an alpha doing the exact same things, I highly doubt people would be romanticizing or celebrating his behavior the way they do.
What he did to Grayson was wrong. And the fact that Grayson had to explicitly say, “No. Not without my consent,” should tell people everything they need to know. Consent doesn't suddenly become irrelevant because the character is an omega, uke, or the one people are supposed to sympathize with. If the roles were reversed, people would absolutely be calling it out.
You can't excuse harmful behavior just because you like the character or because they fit a particular BL archetype. If we'd condemn it from one character, we should condemn it from the other too. The standards should be the same for everyone.
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Idk how to feel about this chapter, Grayson clearly was by Dane and I knew it a scene were coming because everyone was spoiling in the comments however I feel it’s not taken seriously ?? I am not a novel reader and I don’t plan to read the novel so I’ll wait to see what will happen after but from what I saw Grayson’s emotions was expressed much more during this scene than in the manhwa. Also I feel like a lot of people here have a double standards?? Top ing bottom in BL is far too common and I think most of you are tired with it however since this is the opposite in this BL it’s taken differently ?