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I think people who have never experienced complex feelings will never get how Ian had love for both.
You're right, I also doubt a lot of people here actually has actual romantic experience while some of them do understand but yk how it is when it comes to people who practically worship their fav character. They don't need nuance, they need everything for their character.
The concept of relationship shouldn't be this hard. Ian did truly love Jo. That love is just different from the one he feels for TJ. It's like you and your ex ending thing for whatever reason. You meet other people, you build a bond with them. It doesn't discard whatever it is you had with your ex. It's just mean you love this person more in a way that was deeper than what you felt before
Do you get guilty for having experience different relationship before meeting the person you love or something? Do you make your partner feel that they need to feel guilty for those past relationships then obviously yk that's toxic right? Hopefully you don't actually have that mindset irl or experience having a partner that makes you feel guilty for having past relationships. Human emotion isn't indisputable.