We got the same father and sadly I have no advice or words for you. But I have I can give you a hug.
All my father gave is heartburn and trauma. He kinda calm down a little coz he’s old. Anyhow I left the country when I was 23 so I’m kinda free from his verbal abuse but he’s sick so I’m still supporting his medical expenses.
Knowing na taga Ph ka din, I can only imagine how difficult it is. Me na nasa abroad is still struggling, what’s more sa bansa na sobrang baba ng pasahod:(

how do y'all cope with toxic fam (the male parent one is the toxic)
he's a narcissist, prideful, selfish, only wants to get what he wants, DOESN'T HAVE A JOB, relies on my mother with the expenses, ALWAYS WANTS TO BE GIVEN A MONEY (from my sisters, mother, AND ME WHO'S LITERALLY A STUDENT AND BARELY SURVIVING WITH MY SIDE HUSTLE), 100000000000% anger issues which leads to verbally abuse us and THREATENING to hurt us. like???? helloo why's my family have been tolerating this mf. like i cant even voice out coz I'd be the baddest child in the whole world coz next thing in the morning this family pretends nothing happened while this mf ALWAYS BRINGING BACK THE SHIT I'VE SAID TO HIM AND TWISTING MY WORDS MAKING ME THE BAD GUY!
holly sht. how did y'all survive seriously. i want to have time skip where am just living alone now!!! and never come back to this mf-ing house.