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I'm just thinking something completely random. Is it possible for an adult to have romanti...

chachacha November 19, 2015 8:43 pm

I'm just thinking something completely random. Is it possible for an adult to have romantic feelings for a child? Not in a sexual manner. (if it's so hard to imagine, say he's completely asexual)

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    I have a secret stash of yaoi. November 20, 2015 6:22 am
    I was reading some yaoi shotacon where the shota is really quite mature; just like any other uke out there. And it got me thinking, if a person is sexually attracted to children, but only their body and not the... chachacha

    For your first question, the answer is definitely yes. That is the very definition of pedophilia. For the second, I don't know...you mean like for example vampires? I think that would depend on how old they were when they got turned if that was the case. If an immortal has the body of a child, a person who is attracted to that body is still a pedophile even if the immortal is actually hundreds of years old. I don't really know, chacha, I'll be honest here, shota/pedophilia makes me really uncomfortable, so I haven't really thought about this kind of thing before.

    As for your other reply, falling for someone online is falling for the illusion of them, ie. it's you projecting attractive qualities in someone where there may be none. It's not the real them. By the way, when I say "you," I mean in general not specifically referring to mangago user chachacha lol.

    If you're a straight girl, a large part of your attraction is because you perceive them to be male. If you were to find out that they were female, I imagine you would lose interest. Kind of like being catfished?

    I Thot You Was a Toad November 20, 2015 7:15 am
    Hmmm, I think I kind of get it and understand the difference. In any case, I consider it bad news for an adult to have any type of feelings other than platonic for a child. Emotional neediness and idolizing som... I have a secret stash of yaoi.

    It would certainly create danger.

    Idolizing someone is a form of objectification—a very uncomfortable experience because the object of affection is not acknowledged as distinct and separate from the delusions being projected onto them. In the case of spiritual attributes—things like understanding, wisdom, compassion, creativity, beauty, harmony, justice ..., the person also becomes a medium for spiritual experience. That's way too much responsibility for a lot of adults, let alone kids.

    I don't want to take it all the way into saying it's wrong and destructive, because most adults back off from inappropriate expressions of love. They might still love, but they will channel that energy into ... I don't know, the fanciest cupcake decorating session ever, or a really rough-and-tumble game of rugby with their mates, or they might build a shelter for victims of domestic violence, or use it as inspiration to be kinder to strangers. In those cases, the love is a very positive experience, and the only involvement of the child is as an inspiration, or an indirect source of joy and healing. It doesn't require interaction with the child at all.

    I Thot You Was a Toad November 20, 2015 7:25 am
    I was reading some yaoi shotacon where the shota is really quite mature; just like any other uke out there. And it got me thinking, if a person is sexually attracted to children, but only their body and not the... chachacha

    " So I was wondering if there is actually a creature where they do not age, would having a relationship with them be socially unacceptable?"

    Umm ... okay. Now that I've stopped laughing, most religions prohibit intercourse between humans and anything except other humans. Most are a lot more specific than that (like no sex between humans of the same gender.) But a lot of religions believe in supernatural entities like ghosts, nature spirits, angels, gods, and they have strict prohibitions against sexual intercourse between humans and any of them.

    Yu-chan November 20, 2015 1:33 pm

    I don't know much more... My dad was kinda sensible about it. My sister don't even know.

    It's just probably the same as when you feel like you're falling for a friend. They were just like friend. Only the age problem.
    I say "only" but it's actually a pretty big problem.

    I Thot You Was a Toad November 20, 2015 5:51 pm
    The first two paragraphs are some sort of explanation to my question and my hazy definition of ‘romantic love', but if you’re too lazy to read it just skip it lol. I am not nor have I ever met any asexual p... chachacha

    The ancient Greeks had countless definitions of love, including Agape, Eros, Philios, Storge, Ludus, Pragma, Philautia ... love of the divine, sexual passion, brotherly/sisterly affection, parental care, playfulness, enduring faithfulness, self-realization. There were words for love of city-nation, duty, love of beauty .... And the thing about the Greeks is that they believed every human being had different "quantities of expression" (I don't really know how to describe this since it isn't really a quantifiable thing, but English has weird meaning structures that sometimes fail when it comes to expressing really subtle things) of each and every kind of love. So, to their thinking, love was just a natural characteristic of being human, and I tend to agree.

    By natural, however, it means that we cannot control the feeling. It comes to us like an awakening, a bolt from the blue, a new neural pathway or wash of hormones through the body. It just is. But if we cannot control the feeling, we can certainly control what we do with it.

    I mean, think about this. Millions, probably billions, of adult women (and men) around the world "fall in love" with some sort of cultural idol every year without the faintest idea of who this person really is. They draw on a type of collective cultural thought-form about the person which corresponds to their sense of ideal. Sometimes, PR and Marketing people figure out what that zeitgeist is, and play on it with carefully cultivated press releases and junkets, etc.. The point is, it has nothing to do with the real person, and as long as the people who feel this mad passion keep it contained to things like decorating their bedrooms with posters or writing bad fanfiction, it remains harmless. If the passion inspires a person to acts of loving service towards others, without expectation of anything in return, if it inspires them to be a source of inspiration, joy or healing to others, then it is a fine love indeed. But if they start reading "secret love messages meant just for them" in song lyrics or television interviews, if they start sending weird fetish totems to the person, or stalking them, then the harmless delusion has crossed the line into psychosis.