when i started this manhwa, i realized i felt similar outrage before, and oh it’s the pride and prejudice dynamic. the kind of dynamic that you cannot execute without a good understanding of power. and the author gets it.
the core of it is a clash between pride (ml) whose arrogance became his downfall EVEN when he doesnt mean it and prejudice (mc) whose struggles led him to have ideals that created prejudices. mc was initially cornered, as he was helpless against so many structural injustice. ml perpetuated mc’s terrible situation because of his lack of understanding towards the power dynamic and pushed mc into a corner.
their relationship started to bloom when ml learned to lower his ego, see things from mc’s pov and discard arrogance (which often is unintended) while mc learned to see things differently by not leaning on his prejudice. his prejudices have helped him to survive, a guard as a package deal with his ideals. yet he must be able to lower them for this to work.
at its core, this dynamic can only work well with struggles against injustice, it’s essential in elizabeth bennett, and it’s essential here too.
ahh if only the ending isnt rushed.
its fine if they suffer a bit because i believe in the author who birthed song uyun #trust #allin everything will work out
The author wouldn't do anything bad cause we have pure hearts
this manhwa is so ecchi the nipples are the plot
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garam is in the wrong for how he’s handling a conflict, but jaehyuk also seriously terrifies me. it’s not healthy to throw everything for a relationship, it can in fact make you resentful in the future. garam didn’t ask for any of that, and it’s not even positive things.
The one thing that does scare me about jaehyuk is what he did to get that apartment and get garam to live with him. But the things they mentioned this chapter - about his work and family - don't seem that crazy to me. Like, he was never actually serious about the job, and it's pretty common for (LGBTQ+, at least) people to cut off their families because of their prejudice. Like, realistically speaking, any job is better than being unemployed () so it hurts to see, but jaehyuk is one spoiled mf — and while he's never had too many serious fights with his parents before (despite his mom trying, with jaehyuk most things probably just went in one ear and out the other) he's being showing that he wants to be more independent from them for a while now, so if they're ALSO going to be pricks about the person he loves, it isn't too big of a jump to cut contact with them. Although, ofc, I also know it would probably be better to try to have a sensible conversation before any of that...
But anyways.
Garam only has a bone to pick with jaehyuk for doing that because it's something HE would never do, since he prefers to hide and be non-confrontational.
I don't think it is healthy. It is true that gay people cut homophobic friends and family out of their lives, it's also a thing that needs to be discussed if the action you are doing is supposedly for your partner. It should not be "Oh I cut my family out for you" it adds a level of guilt and responsibility on the other partner. Either discuss what they want to do with those friends and family or if you are going to make a decision yourself, don't spin it around on your partner, specially if you know your partner if self-conscious about close personal relationship.
That's why I said both of them suck at communication. It's not just Garam who makes decisions unilaterally, it's also Jh and both have aided for the downfall of the relationship.
No, yeah, I totally agree it should never be "I did this for you"– jaehyuk was kinda crazy for bringing it up like that, now that I think about it – but it is ultimately not a self sacrificial thing (since his parents prejudice affect him and not just garam) so in my mind I can't see why garam felt so burdened by it.
In the end I guess it truly does boil down to how neither of them can communicate things properly
as a gay person who has cut my family off, it’s completely understandable when you actually make the decision yourself and doesnt make it about your partner. even if it’s not self sacrificial, he DID make it into a garam thing within this chapter.
not to mention, jaehyuk is not exactly the most financially responsible and his decision to be out will affect him and garam. i am out, my job will not be affected by that, but i would never force a partner to be out in a homophobic country that could be dangerous for them, especially without financial security.
reading this is so terrifying. miwa is way too similar to one of the girls i’ve been in love with. her insecurities and her problems hit too close to home. then as the story progressed, i cannot believe how much i relate to both tamaki and yuria, but also to sae. this is so crazy good how will anything else ever measure up.
csm twt is experiencing what happened in this manga in real time rn
some of yall dont get how horrifying it is to be outed... especially in a homophobic country such as within this context. there will always be risks, and jaehyuk is extremely privileged and new to this to be able to disregard that risk.
garam could have communicated better and him running away and deciding by himself on the course of action is not right either. both sides could have done better, but blaming garam only atp is just... ignoring the context and very valid risks, not to mention trauma.
This omg people do not realize how scary it truly is
i thought this is gonna be a funny comedy slice of life no serious plot little did i know i have now been hit by several trains this is going to my all time fave
WAR IS OVER