This kinda makes me realize that Jaehyuk is an anxious attachment while Garam is more of a avoidant. They aren't entirely those things but it aligns with them in many ways.
For example, the phone call. Jae was willing to wait hours for Garam to say something, begging inside that he would just reassure him. While Garam wasn't willing to say a single word.
Garam ran away. He ran away when they had one very serious fight. He says Jae is compulsive but he is continuing to make compulsive decisions. It's just Jae makes them outta love while Garam makes them out of anxiety/fear. He avoids what is tough.
I feel bad for both of them and can understand both sides. If it weren't for this chapter I'd be completely on Jae's side. But Jae is starting to piss me off too. He's just being petty because he's hurt and feels unloved, he can't outright cut of the love of his life so instead he's doing this immature friends BS.
They're opposite in so many ways that it will be hard for them to work out if they can't come to a compromise. Jae needs to chill and respect Garam's boundaries while Garam needs to try a little harder at showing his affection to Jae and reassure him when he needs it. Also stop running from his damn problems.
They both need to just fucking talk like damn adults.
I gave up on this story the instance they had sex. It was so unique and interesting at first. The plot got me excited for so many different possibilities for a romance to spark between the two. And the whole small touches makes me remember, it's cheesy and doesn't make any sense but it was interesting and good for forcing proximity. Them having sex just made all that small progress jump to 20 to 80 in an instant and it was a waste!! Like bro this was giving me slow burn vibes and it has so much potential to build on the momentum. It just fell right into the topical BL slop that has the characters going at it within minutes of knowing each other and it ruins any tension or romance to bring momentum to the relationship. It's bad writing and the author messed up the story even more by showing us very clearly that this dude only sees his ex in the main character and is not over him in the slightest. Also the ml basically sexually assaulted him like every other ml in BLs, so much potential just to have it fall into the same category or shit BL.
Y'all saying why keep reading if you hate it? Y'all ever heard of hate reading?
Anyway Kim Dan got not self respect I mean come one, he's completely right he's exactly like that doctor. This author only writes characters with absolute zero backbone because that's the only way a relationship like this can exist. The main character has to have no personality, no power, no love for themselves and no fucking backbone. Absolute caca writing...
Let me start by saying that everything Im sharing comes from spending many years on this site, observing patterns across multiple accounts, and reading user reports. Im not the dev, mod, or admin but Ive had experience with systems which is why I can answer your “whys” and “what ifs”
THIS IS THE SITUATION
Jan19 - Bto closes
⠀⠀⠀*start of traffic surge to Mgo
⠀⠀⠀*some features have slowed down a bit
Jan24 - Mgo goes down
⠀⠀⠀*caused by backend updates or overloaded servers
Jan26 - Mgo comes back up
⠀⠀⠀*site is online again but very buggy: missing lists, random logouts, slow pages, no notifications, etc
⠀⠀⠀*this is when the system started gradually restoring lists
WHY IS THE SITE SO BUGGY
- Mgo uses separate parts for different things. One to SAVE your manga data (aka database/the memory), another one to DISPLAY your saved Manga data (aka UI/what you see), and another one for your browser/session data (aka cookies, login state, etc/this also connects the database and ui). When everything is working properly, these three systems stay in sync (eg. when you save a manga, it will show up in your list right away)
The system will communicate with Database, like hey this is the user that logged in go tell UI the things they should display. So Database will tell UI, like hey based on what's given to me, these are the saved data that belongs to this user, these are what you should display. HOWEVER, because of the gradual restoring of lists (which puts a heavy load on the site), the System, UI, and Database are not able to communicate properly, so theyre not in sync. This is why we’re encountering the issues
I DON'T GET NOTIFICATIONS
- since the System, UI, and Database are not in sync, Mgo cant correctly link your acc to your saved mangas so notifs dont show up/update properly. This is temporary and should be fixed when the system is in sync again
WHY DO I KEEP GETTING LOGGED OUT
- Mgo keeps track of your login/session info. But if this isnt tracked properly, Mgo may log you out randomly/repeatedly
WHERE DID MY LIST GO
- Your mangas are not deleted. Theyre still saved in the database. Mgo is gradually restoring everyone’s list from the oldest to most recent marked mangas. Follow this post to get notified about updates: https://www.mangago.me/home/mangatopic/21092806/
WILL I GET MY LIST BACK
- YES. Do note that while your list is coming back, you might notice some things are off:
⠀⠀⠀*all mangas going into Already Read even if theyre originally marked as Want to read or Reading
⠀⠀⠀*deleted mangas showing up again
⠀⠀⠀*missing notes/summaries
⠀⠀⠀*only rated mangas showing for some users
(I can explain why but it will be too long for this FAQ. idk how to explain without sounding too technical so i might also have to explain the basic terms. You can ask in the comments if youre curious)
I ADDED NEW MANGAS TO MY EMPTY LIST, WILL IT OVERWRITE THE OLD ONE
- if you ADD NEW mangas while the site is restoring, your new list will stay. And your original list will be added back on top of it once its fully restored. But if you RE-ADD EXISTING mangas, it will update the original date of when the manga was added, tags, and summaries/little notes you originally had for it. its usually best to wait and let the restoration finish before making lots of changes
WHY DO OTHERS HAVE THEIR MANGAS BACK ALREADY, WHILE MINE IS STILL MISSING
- think of this like we're reading through a giant BOOK of everyone’s manga list, arranged by the exact time each manga was added (aka timestamps). Each timestamp is like a page in the book, and we read them from the oldest timestamps to the newest. Right now, we are reading timestamps from Feb 2022 (as of writing this post), so any timestamp dated later than Feb 2022 wont appear YET
If your lists are still completely EMPTY, there are 2 possible reasons:
One is that its about “activity”, not account age. So even if you joined in 2016, but you didnt add any manga until 2023, your list wont appear until the system reaches the timestamps for 2023. The second reason is, since the system is very busy right now, it sometimes hits a blurry page and has to skip to keep moving. This doesnt mean your data is gone. It just means the system needs to go back for a second run once the "main reading" is done
HOW SOON WILL THEY COMEBACK / WHEN IS THE RESTORATION EXPECTED TO FINISH
- how soon your lists fully comes back depends on how far along we are in the “book” and how many timestamps we still need to read. If yours already started to appear again then thats a good sign. it means your account is already in the queue and the rest should continue to come back (gradually, not all at once)
If theres another run, expect anywhere from a few extra hours to about one extra day. A full second pass could push it to Feb 4–5, but a partial cleanup run would likely finish around Feb 2–3.
IS THERE A WAY TO EXPORT MY LIST
- heres one way to export your lists: https://docs.google.com/document/d/14Drj0CviUhrAmZlU-DC-AtxGFQoH1_PYQ81b2Vzu82w/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.acjitdw8v0h thank @Gurl for this solution by following/sending them a message. This is their account: https://www.mangago.me/home/people/3402357/home/
IMPORTANT: WHEN TO CONTACT SUPPORT
- PLEASE WAIT. Do not email the devs yet. The system needs to make several runs to load everyone's data correctly. Most of the current issues should fix themselves after the full restoration process is done. Give it at least 2 weeks from now.
If after everything finishes and youre still seeing clear errors in your marked mangas, report them to [email protected]
If possible, keep a small log of your observations and what you did, such as:
⠀⠀⠀*whether you re-added, edited, or deleted mangas during restoration
⠀⠀⠀*any repeated issues (random logouts, missing notifs, errors, etc.)
⠀⠀⠀*the other specific errors you noticed
Simply put, keep a log of WHAT YOU DID/OBSERVED and WHEN (use GMT or if in your local time, specify your timezone). The more specific your report is, the easier it is for the devs to trace what went wrong. It helps them replicate your actions so they can actually find and fix the problem
Here's an example log:
2026-01-26 9PM: I noticed my list went missing
2026-01-28 2AM: my list is restoring up to 67
2026-01-28 9PM: I added 10 mangas to my Already Read
2026-01-30 6PM: my restored mangas is stuck at 67
2026-01-31 10AM: my list count is increasing again. It restored up to 83
2026-01-31 7PM: I added 3 mangas to my Want to Read
EDIT TO ADD: Youre welcome yall (i cant reply to each one of you youre too many ) Im just glad I could help clarify things! Ask away if you have more questions so I can keep updating this community-notes for everyone! (づ￣ ³￣)づ
All these horny people in the comments need to chill. Bro y'all forgot what good plot is, y'all just want corn with no plot, go read anything else on here or go find any of the websites with that.
