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I mean I’ve been part of kink for a while now and I definitely don’t think this was only for the male gaze, I’m a woman and I’ve definitely enjoyed it. I guess I’m just thinking of it from a perspective of someone who likes similar things, I’m not into GR personally but I can appreciate the likeness of it and some people truly like the no free will stuff. This is definitely a more hardcore bdsm story than most people are used to IMO.

Another thing I want to touch on is the romance part. I think it could still turn out that way. Anyone that has been in a long term or serious dom/sub slave/master dynamics can tell you that relationships like this go deeper than just romance and intimacy.

Anyways I just wanted to share this POV with everyone bc I think it’s just being looked at in such a negative light.

As someone that’s part of the kink community I agree with people saying this isn’t the best representation of BDSM but I do think that it’s a good representation of a couple trying to communicate and accept each other sexual interests. Also specifically accepting BSDM rather than looking at it as an “excuse to abuse people”

I think my hot take is I don’t really agree with people saying that Han is manipulative. I agree that he fucked up about pressuring Lee to do stuff in the beginning. I’m not pushing aside his trauma truly. Though him not discussing his trauma or even briefly telling it to him so he can be aware of it would’ve been better in the beginning to save himself from the pain of the situation. Though I know he struggled with trusting Han in the beginning.

I think that Han truly and sincerely apologized and it’s discussed even in the end that he still feels guilty in the end and would never hurt Lee like that again. I don’t believe it was a manipulation tactic rather than a sincere apology to someone he liked.