asking again bc my dumbass asked the wrong question.
what do you consider a story a hidden gem ?
does it need some special criteria ?
like if a story has less than 100 star rate is it a hidden gem ?
would you consider these stories, hidden gems : ( its fine if you haven’t read them, just look at the star/tags)
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/about_death/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/natsuhate_no_unknown/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/we_won_t_call_it_love/
This is a good question, perhaps one that no one talks about, and you have to be the one to introduce it (╥﹏╥). https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/boku_no_gemini/
@seabi-chan, babe I found a hidden gem for you, look at the votes. And the summary is very helpful in telling what kind of story it is, be sure to read it carefully!!
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/demon_academy/
how do you date when you have severe social anxiety ? is there anyone here who hasn’t dated anyone ? even after their twenties ? i feel sick to my stomach, thinking im missing out on so many things, my life is so shit and i know if i were to die tomorrow i would regret my whole life. im full of regrets because im not and i don’t think i will ever be confident enough to have friends or even a partner. yet the only thing i want in my life is love. honestly, when i see someone saying they’re in their 40s/50s and that they haven’t even had their first kiss, i feel so sick and anxious. i feel anguish as hell, it’s rude and disrespectful to say this but i hope i will never become like them. but what can i do when i can’t even like myself. id like to hear someone’s pov who has severe social anxiety
I have severe, TERRIBLE social anxiety, not only with complete strangers but with the people closest to me, too. And I have never kissed or dated or hell, even HELD HANDS ROMANTICALLY with another woman. Unfortunately, I think it's going to be hard for me to date, I can’t see myself dating anyone unless I am approached and pursued by someone extremely patient, because there is no way I will ever be able to make the first move. An added difficulty is the fact I live in a conservative country and in a rural area too, so the dating pool is even smaller. I think if you really believe you're missing out on life, whether in general or just the romantic part of it, you're going to have to force yourself to start making the first step, go outside more, approach people and befriend them, maybe try downloading a dating app or just going out to try and find someone I guess. But I think you should also try working on your mental state first, this might sound corny but you really do have to love yourself first before trying to get into a relationship ngl. Sorry that I don't have any better advice...
Honestly no, ever since I was a kid I was basically really introverted and kind of hated people too ngl, so I made peace with the fact that some things, especially concerning things like friendship and relationships, I will just never experience, and I never really felt like I was missing out on something. Also since I was young I was basically exposed to the worst of people and relationships and how awful relationships ruin and suck the life and joy out of people, so I always kind of even avoided getting close to others because I believed one day, one way or another my relationship with them will end. As for regrets, I'll probably have them of course, even people with more fulfilling lives have at least one or two, I just try my hardest not to think of that. But again, I already kind of made my peace with everything, maybe I'll never date, maybe I'll never have someone even platonic in my life to spend my time with, but I stopped caring about such things. It's kind of a sad way of thinking and living ngl, but I am fine with it.
I’m just like you, 25 and no friends and terrified of dating. Its been years since I had friend. I mean i’m in therapy and on medication for mental illnesses. Comparison is the thief of joy, I had a difficult childhood, so for me there is no point in comparing with people who had full support.
Honestly I have no solution, if you’re mental health is really bad then going to the doctor is probably the best solution. Because antidepressants can lift some of that anxiety/depression, don't want to diagnose, best to get professional help. At first medication didn't work for me so I kept trying and eventually got recommended to psychiatrist and some of that low mood has been lifted enough to make baby steps in life. Granted I am extremely lucky because of UK’s free healthcare. Then add a therapy or support groups.
Sometimes the anxiety gets so bad that I can’t attend appointments, but my life can only start to progress if I take some kind of action even the smallest. I think figuring out what is the main driver of social anxiety is for you, might help you approach it. For me it’s : I keep thinking I should lose the weight and then make friends so at least being fat is not the reason that they might dislike me. I am terrified of judgement. So either I lose the weight or set a timer to start out slow and talk to people on the internet, then private messages, then real life etc. baby steps.
When I was unmedicated, I thought just like you, on repeat. Now some of those are still there but they are in the back of my brain, not on repeat.
I know it seems like I am pushing medication, but I don’t want to. My point is professional/ some kind of help (based on your country), first step is either therapy or support groups. And if you still need more help then off to the Doctors. If you are wary about side effects, that is valid and it is up to you to decide what you would rather experience.
My plan is to get a bit more better, better enough to mentally, hopefully start talking to people. Some people have their life figured out in their 20s and some 30s. I think that posting this post already shows how brave you are, and social, since you are open to interactions. So definitely, you can get better.
Disclaimer: I could be wrong, this is my experience, Im trying to help the best way I know, when I haven’t figured it out yet.
So hope this helps at least a little bit. :)
I am in my mid twenties and I didn't date with anyone, I also don't have social anxiety, so it may be inappropriate to say all this stuff, I just think dating isn't major thing in my life, I can date in future or maybe I don't, just because you don't do something others do doesn't mean you miss life, everyone has their own peace, and you don't have to do anything something you don't feel ready/comfortable even if it is something every human except you is doing, since it is your life, and if we come to love , love has all kind of forms and just because you date and you find friends doesn't mean it will fill your need of love, idk what it fills though it depends on person, some can't find love in family so all their love comes friends, some has enough love from their family and they don't need other love, some don't have friends or family but it is enough for them to have love of pet or plant so I guess it is more about feeling fulfilling rather than type of love, I don't know your exact age but it is also normal to feel like this in teens until 22 or sometimes more. If you feel really really bad though you can always get a professional help. Also try to sleep before at night before 11-12 it helps great deal with anxiety even if it doesn't fully cure
thank you for taking time to reply and share ur pov.
honestly it did help me, im sobbing right now im glad you are on medication and have doctors to talk to, so at least you’re not alone. i completely understand you, the fear of judgement gets so hard sometimes it prevents us to do so many things, its hard to live with.
i have a sort of pills addiction, i don’t know if asking for medication is the greatest idea ever because i 100% will be using it to get high, but at this point i have no other solution. i’ve already been on antidepressants when i was 15 but it didn’t really work.. yet again i always had social anxiety, but i didn’t think much of it. because i thought it was the least of my worries, because i thought its just something that will go away eventually, so i never really talked abt it to anyone even the doctors. but really, i cant even go outside, i cant talk to people, if someone stares at me i can have a panic attack and cry.
the root of my social anxiety and anxiety in general comes from how much insecure i am, i just feel like im being watched 24/7, and because i hate myself i get anxious. everytime i interact with someone i think they must be thinking i look horrible. i don’t think its related to my depression or whatever, and i don’t know how medication can change that. im not self deprecating just because i have anxiety or anything, like im genuinely ugly, thats why i just think ill never have a partner
i hope it makes sense omg
im 19. its not just about dating but i feel so useless and lonely, im just rotting in my room like a dumbass and i can’t help but overthink when i see everyone’s lives. i’ve already missed out on so much things during my highschool years, i regret it so so much, and now im ruining my adult life. this is so embarrassing. but i understand how it’s normal to feel this way, i guess every teens/pre adults feel socially pressured and anxious because they don’t know what to do with their life. i just wish i was normal enough to do things teenagers do
i really don’t get how ppl rate manga here. why the fuck is there only 150 ppl who rated this story, yet 2000 people who tagged it ??? everytime i think ive found a gem and then i see how many ppl tagged it
I mean as someone that trusts my ratings more than tags and gets heartbroken bc "omg why did I rate this a 5 star when it wasn't even that good" it's an endless cycle of a nightmare....
Some things you read you're just too speechless to rate it, some sucks so bad you can't even rate it, tagging a comic is just way more efficient than using the rating system lol
It's probably mostly due to the fact that
1. You can have multiple tags in a single comic
2. You can tag a comic even if you haven't read it yet (so someone can tag it but can't rate it yet)
I haven't really been in the tags thing so I cant speak about it much tho lol, but it is mind-bogging that there are big differences in the ratings & the taggings lmao
Mangago also doesn’t list the actual amount of ppl who’ve read a story, especially for popular stories. For most stories, yes the number is accurate, but the popular ones or ones that have been here for a long time have the number of readers decreased by quite a bit. For example codename Anastasia has 313, and ik damn well there’s more than 313 people who’ve read it.
It might have something to do with the great mggo shutdown of 2021? I think the site made it so for the popular stories the number of readers is lower than it actually is so they won’t get sued? As in the author could say “there’s 9k people who’ve read my story on this site, that’s 9k people who could’ve paid for it legally”.
what’s the difference between webtoon and manhwa?
so a manhwa can be a webtoon ?
look, for this story i don’t know what to tag it, because its a korean comic but ppl r tagging as a webtoon https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/hyperventilation/
im so confused

UPDATE = ( final update btw )
so your lists won’t ever come back, the process has been done, if your lists/reading did not come back, it will NOT come back in the future. they are gone forever sorry.
only rated stories came back, and if you want to understand why and how this happened, check below
YES YOUR LISTS DISAPPEARED
YES EVERYONE IS GOING THRU THE SAME THING
NO YOUR LIST WONT COME BACK UNLESS YOU RATED OR TAGGED THEM BEFORE !!!!!
YES ITS NO USE IN WAITING BECAUSE THEY ARENT COMING BAAAAACKKKKKK!!!
its a data crash, they cant do none about your lists if you didnt rate or tag every stories you’ve read, it’s not related to when you put them in ur lists or when your account was created, its literally just a crash and data are missing, if your lists haven’t came back yet, they aren’t coming back, like, never.
YES YOU GOTTA REMAKE YOUR ENTIRE LISTS MANUALLY
DONT UPDATE YOUR LISTS YET THO JUST WAIT, YOURE ADDING MORE WORK FOR THE DEVS
to understand why you shouldn’t touch your list, read this post : https://www.mangago.me/home/mangatopic/21213931/
more / detailed info : https://www.mangago.me/home/mangatopic/21255174/
NO MANGAGO ISNT SHUT T!NG D0WN
YES EVERYTHING IS OKAY
NO YOURE NOT ALONE EVERYONE KEEPS GETTING LOGGED OUT EVERY 2 SECONDS
YES MANGAGO IS GLITCHING
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if y’all are bored you can check this list ( BL ONLY) : https://www.mangago.me/home/mangalist/2253224/
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