Atp, they both need to break up for them to realise how they're both wrong and right and how they're both inconsiderate with each others feelings despite genuinely liking each other. Had Garam just appreciate and acknowledged Jaehyuks efforts despite him not fully understanding how one shpuld make so much effort for him, would make Jaehyuk feel reassured that his feelings and efforts are properly reciprocated.
Ik that Jaehyuk isn't really looking for a "give-and-take" where Garam should do the same efforts as he does, like simply saying when your birthday is (which Garam "forgot" to tell despite dating for months), but simply appreciating without questioning and saying they shouldn't do so much is so wrong and disrespectful to the person's time, effort, and thought to it. It makes me sad if the only way to make this relationship work is for Jaehyuk to constantly be the one chasing and compromising and be the one having to first initiate a conversation. Garam should try and talk properly and should think about what Jaehyuk feels too without running away again.
Jaehyuk on the other hand, is being too extra sometimes, despite actually trying to do something without fully understanding what Garam truly means and feels is also one thing. He doesn't try to fully comprehend it and just goes along his merry way of what he thinks is right to make Garam comfortable without thinking about the consequences he will make. (Aside from putting that ex in court)
Garam feels uncomfortable going outside his comfort zone,
Jaehyuk just wants to feel reassured that he is loved too.
Instead of talking, you left.
Instead of telling why you're mad,
Instead of talking about your trauma so he could understand you more since you know very well how your boyfriend can be an idiot, you just said something you most likely didn't mean, like continuing to lie to people to the rest of your life of being in a gay relationship... You both need to talk for you guys to understand each other. Thats how relationships work.
Do you genuinely think lying and lying and lying to people about your relationship will solve everything? Think about what Jaehyuk feels about this too. People will eventually find out your relationship. Yes, people will discriminate, but you don't have to live your life thinking about what other thinks about you. So what gives? Yes, you're traumatized tying to open up about your sexuality, but do you honestly think you want to live like that forever? Living in a secret? Living in a lie? Living isolated and alone? Jaehyuk is confident but yeah sure he doesn't think about the consequences he'll make but still. Why don't you pick up his confidence and be confident about it too?
Yes, Jaehyuk have done you wrong in the past, and sure, he almost outed you when he knows you're sensitive about it, but isn't it time? Jaehyuk knew he wronged you when he realized his feelings and now he's trying to make up for it. He showed his love to the point of trying to put that dude in trial. Sure, he was an ass back then, but isn't it time to forgive?
There are times where you need to get over your trauma if you truly not want to live like that forever. There are times when you need to forgive and move on, but never forget.
You "forgot" to tell YOUR BOYFRIEND you BIRTHDAY and you think its just nothing? And what his mother said to you was enough for you to doubt the entire relationship? Do you not trust him at all? Are you blind? Are you numb?
He wanted to try to talk to you again because you wouldn't listen to him either. You wouldn't listen to how he feels about this too. Yet you only saw your side and kept on dragging to your past and wouldn't even try to move on from it. Being in a relationship isn't one-sided, both of you are in this. You need to fully see jaehyuks effort in this relationship too.
Just running away without talking won't fix ANYTHING. You running away again from your traumas and fears WON'T SOLVE YOU ANYTHING. You need to face your reality too. Let the world know you're gay, who cares if they talk shit about you? Stop hiding yourself and let yourself have a breather too. Sure it's not easy, but just thinking its hard without trying won't do you anything. JUST TRY and TALK IT OUT WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND. Garam, you need to grow up too.
Garam, you're so stupid.
"sure, he almost outed you when he knows you're sensitive about it, but isn't it time?".....uhm...I don't think you can really determine a time to come out for another person. If it was easy, there would never be such thing as coming out.
" Why don't you pick up his confidence and be confident about it too?" I think people are allowed to have different personalities. Surely we are not praising an impulsive and non-consensual outing. surely not right? "Yet you only saw your side and kept on dragging to your past and wouldn't even try to move on from it." ......unless they go to therapy it isn't one poof trauma un-trauma-ed thing. also there's no therapy in yaoi so sue me. " Being in a relationship isn't one-sided, both of you are in this. " yet his bf decided to unilaterally decided for both of them that it's best for them to come out. "You need to face your reality too" just because you need to do face doesn't mean you need to jump face first in the fire impulsively. it is a gradual thing.







I still feel conflicted of the fact that Dojin and Byul has been seeing and chatting with her despite knowing how kuch Hye-syng has been thru. I get that Hye-sungs relationship with his mother "may" be something that "can" be saved but still... I hope Hye-sung will never forgive and forget what he has been through and those two who is the most important person in hye-sungs life should be mindful of what they're saying and thinking.
Though in Dojin's side I get he probably doesn't want Hyesung to have any regrets and broken relationships with anyone especially his mother (except that asshole), but chatting to her behind his back is a bit much.
(⊙…⊙ ) sorry i meant to like