Blossom49

I wish i knew the raws also I am a bit like jaeyoung so I can understand your frustration. Sometimes people find comfort in not having things done in a proper manner going with their feelings. And he wasnt complaining, he was just expressing that he was making an effort when sangwoo implied he wasn't. Which I thought was ridiculous. Saying someone hasn't showed effort in love over some spelling mistakes is a bit crazy. Sungwoo through the story mostly thinks abt himself. He is either like "this is my fault" or "this is not my fault". Not really thinking about jaeyoung as another person. But thats the point of their relationship

I think Sangwoo probably has some kind of condition, though I honestly don't know what it is, and I don't want to speculate. What I do think is that he processes things differently from the average person. When he said Jaeyoung didn't love him because of the texting issue, I don't think he was being dramatic. I think that's genuinely how he interprets things. For example, he tried to shorten his list of rules as much as he could. He also does things like wash the dishes and pick up Jaeyoung's socks even though he clearly doesn't enjoy doing them. To Sangwoo, that's how he shows love doing things that make him uncomfortable because they make his partner happy. So from his perspective, if Jaeyoung isn't willing to do things he dislikes for Sangwoo, it probably feels like Jaeyoung doesn't love him as much.
In real life... yeah, I know this is fiction, Jaeyoung feels like that guy that's really attractive then you get to know them, they become less attractive. At least to me. Like who are you leaving your socks on the floor for? Pick them up. It's not that hard. I also don't think Jaeyoung is putting in as much effort as he believes he is. When you live with someone, especially someone you say you love, you have to change habits that inconvenience them. That's just part of sharing a life together. At the same time, they both need to recognise that they're fundamentally different people. Jaeyoung is laid back and free spirited, while Sangwoo is structured, routine driven, and incredibly diligent. If they're going to work, they need patience, understanding, and a lot more communication. I'm not taking sides... Okay, I am. Most of Jaeyoung's complaints just don't land for me. Looking at his previous relationships and thinking about how he cared less is such a strange comparison. He was even trash to his exes. He also counts every compromise he makes without acknowledging that Sangwoo is compromising too. Picking up after someone else's mess when you're someone who values order that much is a compromise. If you genuinely want someone who lives exactly like you, then maybe you should date someone more compatible. But these two clearly love each other, so the answer isn't to stop compromising it's to keep meeting each other halfway. Otherwise, it starts feeling like Sangwoo is just constantly putting up with Jaeyoung's habits. And don't even get me started on the texting. If someone texted me without spaces or in a way that made me decode every sentence, I'd get the biggest ick. I don't even like it when people shorten every other word. The smoking argument didn't really convince me either. Quitting smoking should be because you want to quit or because you care about your own health not because someone else wants you to. That's different from something small like eating lasagne less often because your partner doesn't like it. If you don't want to drink a particular juice, for example, that's a perfectly valid boundary. Not every preference has to become a compromise. The thing that makes Jaeyoung a little less attractive to me isn't just that he's messy it's that he struggles to communicate. He bottles everything up because he's afraid they'll break up, then when they finally have a serious conversation, he walks away because he's angry and starts texting like a child instead. I think Jaeyoung wants Sangwoo to accept him exactly as he is, and in his mind he already accepts Sangwoo exactly as he is. So he's wondering, "Why can't Sangwoo do the same for me?" But that's where I get stuck. If accepting Sangwoo means accepting that structure, routines, and rules are part of who he is, then asking him to stop having rules is asking him to stop being... Sangwoo. Maybe I'm overthinking it. It's fiction, and I'm mostly writing this because it's fun to analyse. At the end of the day, I think they're just two people who are very different. They'll need a lot of patience, a lot of communication, and probably less sexy time and more talking time.

i knoww, analysing fiction is the fun stuff!! I do agree that both of them are facing the same problem of not being able to see the other side. For me, texting quick is more important than texting with proper grammar. idk about jae's reasons but mine is that if i spend time on grammar, i'll forget what I am trying to say. Making us "fight" like this over differences in the comments is kind of the point by the author. Normally, in romance books, they look love so fun but authors like this make it look so tiring TwT. Like i love those two together but im grateful that i got no ho3s.

"probably less sexy time" LMAO. reminded me of another BL i was reading where characters kept making out even though one of them REALLYY wanted communication. (It is also a rigid boy x troublemaker but the characters have VERY different personalities here)