Bean23

i LOATHE skirts, dresses, high heels, make-up, and doing anything fancy with my hair. i barely like accessories. i prefer my shirts and jeans/pants, and me's shoes.(i'm a girl in 9 1/2 Wide) I am a girl too. maybe we are just very tomboyish. and the girl gene skipped over us.

People seriously struggle with this, and there is a ton more to consider than 'I don't like skirts.'
I am a straight woman and I have shaved my head a few times, I don't use makeup and I hardly wear anything other than t-shirt and jeans. I change the oil in my car and cut the grass, my husband cooks and does the house chores. I have never wanted to be a man for such frivolous reasons.
I have 3 friends who are transgender and the backlash they have received is nothing to make light of.

its 2018 and it should be more acceptable nowadays to be a woman and presenting yourself in a masculine style? if you're feeling youre more of a girl but more comfortable wearing 'guys' clothes' then do that, fam, nobody should stop you from doing so? you can still be a woman no matter what. if you feel that ur a man then you might be a trans but its not as easy to be one in most parts of the world i guess... anyway you should learn more about yourself first i think

There's a difference between being a tomboy and being a transgendered man. At least, there SHOULD be - but hey, this is 2018, where girls might think they're genderfluid because they'd rather wear skirts one day and pants another. You COULD become a guy, but there are so many other options out there: demigender, bigender, non-binary, intergender, androgyne; the list goes on... But hey, if it's too hard to choose just one, choose 'em ALL!

Okay so I need to clear things up:
1. I am and always have been quite tomboyish, however I used to love dresses and pink and all your other cliche girly stuff too, along with toy cars, legos and all your cliche boys stuff.
2. I really would like to wear dresses and skirts because they make me feel confident, but in a way I am not confident to change how I am and go around wearing them, which is what I meant by cross dressing, I feel like am too masculine to wear makeup or a skirt and that is also what I feel people think of me
3. I don't know if I will ever have the confidence to do all these girly things so I just feel like becoming non binary or something similar
4. Sorry if I took a hit at trans people, that becoming a guy thing was just me sulking about my unintentional manliness to the point where people openly discuss my gender in public lol, I understand that being trans is a full commitment and a whole nother level
5. I know I'm using a lot of gender stereotypes but I mean, they still exist and are what I grew up with so yeah that's why and stuff
6. Jeez man those dislikes rip
7. I'm a teen so yeah this is probs just a phase or me subconsciously tryna get attention and this post wasn't formulated well.
Also thanks to trollodyte for the info, I will take that into account

It's kinda hard to explain, I just wanted to put this out there but I feel like (lmao getting ready for triggered ppl) I wouldn't change my sexuality or identity for me, it would be because that's what other people see of me, like if I were to shave my head, would people think I'm a guy? I feel like then I would just become a guy because I don't give one anymore. Does a bi person say that their gaydar is going off when they see me? Oh well looks like I'm suddenly open to a relationship with any gender. I feel like other people's perspective becomes part of mine, or a personality trait or even an appearance is slowly ingrained into me. I get good grades, not because I'm very clever, but because I adapt myself to what the examiners want. its like an art style. I just take bits of my favourite artists and make that into my style, to the point where it's not my style, it's just others. I just can't feel like myself anymore. The whole entire fuckin reason I'm a tomboy was for my brother who rejected me a lot because I was a girl (but it's ok cos he has a mental issue so I love him anyways) yeah I'm probably just doing this for pity again lmao trying to blame something for my ugly face lol yeah whatever I think I'm gonna delete this whole post it's just stupid now

There is nothing wrong with you. It's not stupid, or pitiful. It's standard, especially when we are younger and trying to find out who we are. It sadly actually takes a very long time to discover who we are. because it will change due ti certain events or people in our life.
If you don't feel confident, baby steps: wear a dress around the house. or a quick trip to the gas station. A real quick grocery store trip. Baby steps, getting used to it, for YOURSELF, not for anybody else, or what they think. it doesn't matter. People are always going to find a way to discourage others, believe me. (Half my family are Master level at it). It's normal to try and pull parts of personality or art from around us, because we as human beings want to adapt to what majority consider "normal". But we are all different, with so many genders, and so many sexuality, with different personalities, some with mental health issues, and different religion. You need to take your time and discover yourself. not based on other's opinion, but who YOU want to be. Who makes YOU happy with yourself. It won't happen overnight. But i promise, it's not stupid. It's okay to worry about these things.
(I'm an asexual tomboy, with anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. I don't exactly fall anywhere close to "normal")