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Hey friend thanks for sharing and asking for help! Life can feel so stifling sometimes especially when you’re already dealing with so much. I just want you to know the first step to change is realizing that something is wrong. Identifying what is making you hopeless, like a job like family like a person like finances, is leading you on a better path to figuring out what you need to do for yourself to get out of that situation. I don’t know what your going through, but I want to say you are worth it, put your confidence into yourself and believing you can do more with what circumstances you were given, and knowing that’s not what you deserve. That’s how I changed my life for the better. It’s tough, but I remember I’m worth the hassle and the work to be happy and live freely. Hope this helps

Yes! During uni/after graduation I really struggled to get an internship/job. I actually had a family member invent an internship for me at their work since I couldn’t find anything and wouldn’t be able to graduate without one. I was really discouraged and felt like I was hopeless and so far behind compared to my friends who were able to find stuff easily.

About 6 months after graduation I finally landed a job at a decent company. I felt really hopeless about my future but things were able to change and get better!

there's always hope for change in your future, but you have to make the change happen by yourself. i know i say it like it's easy but the only way for you to make it happen is to trust yourself. you're capable of doing great things, and if you continue to try you will succeed and finally see the light you wish for. the only thing to do is stay alive and try again and again until you do what you wanted to. ofc it's not easy but your friends will be here for you and support through this, so dont lose hope, you can do it

maybe let's try to slowly do things that you don't normally do just to break the cycle of doing the same thing, I think it's okay to feel helpless seeing no future for yourself is okay there's no expectations for yourself, just living and you seeking out for yourself is also a great change. So continue living and try to do new things. I know that it's easier said than done but hope u can still try. Thank you also for sharing this having courage is also a step ahead, you can also message me if you want someone to talk to.

Not fully changed no, but I have finally gotten good medical help for my depression.

All I can really say is try to be kind to yourself. Don't think too much about the past and not too far ahead in the future. If you need escape thru reading, do it. It's okay. When you have better days, do the things that need doing. Even doing just a small thing is enough. You are precious despite the hardships.

If you have close family members or friends, let them help. If you dont have that support, try reach out to someone. Anyone. You are not alone.

Hey, I just wanted to tell you that evb has their own path, and you don't have to find your own right away just because you're in your 20s. Society normalized being stable wayyyy too early. When you truly think about it 20years is actually nothing, you're still seen as young and not eldery when you're 45. Life is actually soooo long, don't give up so early!! It's probably not easy right now and feel lonely and hellish, but don't be so harsh on yourself. Even if you're alone right now, you will find your people one day, no matter how long it takes. And even if your family gave up on you, don't give up or yourself or it will really be over. It's not gonna take one day, nor a month, it will be hard and probably long, but as long as you want to try, and actually try, it will get better ! This may sound like empty words but it genuinely do get better, and when it will do, the happiness you'll feel will be worth all the hardships you went through in order to get better. Listen to upbeat songs, consume lighthearted contents, do things that make you happy, start going on walks little by little, uplift yourself everyday... and don't stay on social media for too long, shit really impacts your mental health in every way possible.
Im sorry if I sounded insensitive or unhelpful at some parts, and genuinely pray that you'll get better. Never give up on yourself!!! And always keep in mind that you're the most important person of your world, and you gotta cherish them and take care of them in every way you can. Stay safe

thank u it really means allot to see someone actually take the time to read and reply thank u allot truly

Dw it's not the end of the world. Focus on changing your mindset and how you view yourself. The world is full of ppl who want to see the worst in ppl so at the very least let yourself be the one constant person that loves you. There are plenty of other people that drop of of uni and are in your situation so plz don't think that this is the end of the road. Everybody has different paths and different times. Life is not a race, so it's ok to take it easy and focus on yourself. Sometimes you need to be comfortable with your own presence before being able to accept other people into your life. Right now it might seem like you're all alone and that no one is willing to lend a hand, so the best thing to do is to give yourself that hand. Try going to the park and taking pictures, catching a movie, going to a concert, learning a new hobby.. these are all things you can learn to do alone while also being able to talk to people around you if you feel confident enough. Abt your family, try to open up with them Abt how you feel. Idk know your family's relationship so only do it if you feel comfortable and if they turn a blind eye or make you feel even worse than they are not good people. Life is all about ups and downs all you can do is pick yourself up, and most of all it's ok to feel these things and stay stagnant for a while just remember to keep moving forward when you're ready and don't give up yet bc life has a funny way of making the best things in life awfully difficult to get. Regrets are always gonna be present so do your best to do things you know you won't regret. You should try listening to music cleaning your space, watching a video while cooking, looking at the sky for a couple of minutes each day while reflecting on yourself, small changes that can help make chores that are difficult to do while having depression more digestable. Listen it's ok to cry, cry all you want let it all out each day and give yourself some sympathy and it might just help clear your mind.

It's really nothing dw<3 I hope I have been of help even a little bit!!

Everyone has that time in their life and I understand it, I don’t really have the best advice but tbh I’m not sure if your a religious person but tbh you only life life once and you should try to make that your best one.