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Nvm i have found it

what was it?

Interested too!

It's called living as an emperor's fiance. It hasn't been updated in two years sadly :/

I'm not sure but based on the character descriptions it's probably "False Memories" or "Virus"

My mangago is glitching so Idk if my response sent but you're probably looking for "False Memories" or "Virus"

Thanks for the input! I’ve already read false memories, and this one I’m looking for is a female and a male. It’s also on We Comics.

I didn't but the comments did

http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/chara_cafe_relish_ni_oide/

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Sorry I cut off early lol. Recently she texted me saying she wanted to have a baby. WTF. I keep begging her to reconsider and everything but I don’t know what to do anymore. SHES DELUSIONAL AND MIND FUCKED. It’s gotta be James but this is probably one of the worst pickles she’s ever gotten herself in. She said “just wait till I marry him” and told me not to tel her parents about thinking about wanting a child. I don’t know but I really want to tell her parents in fear she’s gonna do something... (she had birth control implanted a little less than a year ago so I’m hoping to rely on that ) still has about two years)

Have you try speaking with her parents about your thoughts regarding her mental stability and wellbeing? Idk, maybe you should try to distract her or isolate her from the things (or people) that makes her act (or behave) that way. Who knows? Maybe a long trip to a nice place without any phone or internet connection would help her a bit. Or try to ask her about her aspirations or the things she likes (books, music, future job or career). Maybe that way she will realize that the things she is doing are wrong.

I think you should 100% talk to her parents about her wanting to have a child. If she does end up having a child that child will most definitely grow up in a shitty situation

I don't know how close you guys are so take this advice with a grain of salt.

If it were me, I would ask 'Cathy' one more time about how serious she is about wanting a baby with the guy. Because for all I know, she could be joking, it seems like her kind of personality to say a bunch of insane things but never actually push through with it. I'll try to persuade her again about how irresponsible all this would be. At that age, I'm sure she would still want to be free and about and enjoy her youth. Once she has a baby, playtime's over. She has to take care of the baby and raise the child, it's not just about 'getting together with a guy'. You're going to be responsible for a human life.

If she's still serious after all that, then I would go and tell her mom. You mentioned that she had 'Cathy' when she was also younger, I'm sure she could apply her perspective and experience about the whole matter.

I know that it's her life and she might hate you for doing so but having a baby is no joke. All you're trying to do is to look out for her. If she doesn't see that then maybe she isn't worth the trouble. If she truly is your friend, she would try to understand you and why you did things.

Also, random stranger, I'm proud of you for looking out for someone you care deeply about, despite the consequences and stress. Cheers mate!

There are many people like her so I don't think she's a bad person. She's just someone who didn't have a proper adult to influence her. I'm not saying her mom is a bad person but a person who's a parent at 17 doesn't have much wisdom to pass down to their kid. Some people only learn the hard way. I know she's important to you, but I don't think there's much to do for her. Even if you try to be her voice of reason she'll likely never listen to you until she's an older women and even then she might still be on the same ways. As for her having a kid, there's a lot of teenage moms that say that their kids were the ones that turned their lives around, and while that may be the case that doesn't mean the kid will grow up properly. Many adults lack the ability to parent so imagine how kid parents do. She'll be just like her mom. She'll have no patience for the kid, she'll yell and scream and shout instead actually instilling important lessons on the kid, she wont place values in the kid, she'll let her kid have the life she had because she doesn't know what else there is to childhood or what a healthy childhood and life is, and so her kid will do drugs, have sex, and carry all the mental issues she carries at the same tender age. It'll just be a cycle that goes from nowhere to nowhere. No happiness in sight. It's just her crashing through life. All you can do for her is grow as a person and be the good example she needs in her life, but know that if you ever wake up one year and decide to walk away no one can blame you cause it hurts to watch a loved one continue to ruin themselves without being able to do anything while "why doesn't she listen to me". Make sure to take care of yourself and your mental health.

If she want to have a baby so soon just let her do what she wants. she'll soon regret...or not. I have a cousin who's similar to your friend. Also the same energy and have tons of boyfriends at a very young ag.She got pregnant at 16,same age as your friend right now. She struggled alot with school but at least she finished secondary school but her parents is very supportive mentally and financially even tho they are not very rich. Now she's 18 and living her best life with her now 2 y/o son, I also love my nephew and hecc he is very lovable. Just tell her it is not fucking easy to raise a child. It is VERY tiring. she and her boyfriend will not have time to have sex. She'll have to wake up every night because the baby will be crying. Having to carry that baby all the time,playing with them,cleaning them,feeding them and literally so many more. She won't have time for herself.Do not underestimate how hard it is to raise a baby.Baby stuffs are also VERY expensive unless that friend of yours is rich.

Thankyou so much for replying I appreciate your thoughts and advice. I have tried cutting her off from people that cause problems but she just won’t listen and tends to go behind my and her parents back. She’s even used me as an excuse to go out with him a couple times for which her parents know and I was furious about. She’s moved around a lot since she was little and her parents are thinking of moving again once she gets out of highschool. I will try to make her rethink her decisions.

I totally agree! I told her multiple times that a child is a living breathing thing, and requires so much maturity and responsibility she just doesn’t have at this age. She still thinks it would be “a good idea,” even saying that it might help keep her relationship with her boyfriend but I warned her that that is the worst thing you could do. I seriously hope this is just baby fever, and am scared for her future. And yes, I’ve thought about, and I think I’ll tell her parents in private.

Omg I appreciate that so much Thankyou! I love you for that, I really do. I’m afraid that the fact that her mom had her at such a young age is part of the reason she thinks she can “handle it” when I believe she doesn’t understand what it really is. I will take to your advice, again Thankyou sooo much

I very much appreciate your thoughts and concern. My parents raised me as I like to say “the right way” (not saying anybody else is wrong) and I really Hope I am an example for her. I do get a little sad when it comes to problems related to her, but I try to make myself not get so worked up as I need to live my own life. I just work hard to be a positive influence and keep some of those bad people away. Although it’s not much, and as you said she doesn’t really listen to me, I just want to be there for her. However, things might change if she moves away after highschool, and I hope some things might just work themselves out. Thankyou again!

I do agree with your opinion, and am happy to get advice from someone who’s more knowledgeable than me on this subject. I love that so much Thankyou. If she does do what she does, I can’t force her to do anything, but I will be there when she needs it. Thanks again!

I appreciate all of your guys’ advice and I really hope to hear more opinions and experience on the subject. Please feel free to leave a reply and Thankyou so much! I feel a little better now.

This reminds me a lot about a girl that I knew (we were BFFs for like 3 years, but not anymore ;>) She's extremely manipulative, a huge hypocrite and absolutely arrogant. She dates a ton of boys (real life and online). She claims she has family issues (which she does not) and self-diagnoses herself (nothing really bad about it, it's just that she goes way too extreme with her diagnoses). She once dated a nineteen-year-old while still being twelve years old, which, really surprised me. Whenever she breaks up with a boy, she cries and posts edgy posts on her social media and a few days later, she's begging on her knees to get back up with them and a few days later, they break up again. She once got up with her ex-boyfriend who CHEATED on her and no surprise, they broke up again.

Her recent boyfriend broke up with her because she was just too overwhelming. She played the victim card and claims he was abusing her, basically framing him as the villain. Her ideology is "I'm not the villain, you are". Mind you, that she once made fun of one of her boyfriend's anxiety, also threatening to overdose on pills if he ever broke up with her. A few months later, she claims she never made such a thing (I could laugh my ass off because her boyfriend (NOW HER EX) has screenshots). He's a pretty sensitive guy (he's my friend and we've been friends for like 4-5 years) and it broke my heart when he said he thought about suicide. I remember she once said that when she grew up, she just wanted to have sex (pretty much a prostitute). I remember she trolled one of her boyfriend's, sending a DM that "I had sex" and waited for 30 minutes until she confessed it was a prank. A prank that her friends laughed at and made fun of. She also has Discord servers, where she is the only female and invites only males, so she can be the female alpha. I remember she once disappeared for no apparent reason and she returned a year later, yelling at everyone for not sending her messages in her DMs. Of course, I didn't send any messages because she told me she had "family issues" and I didn't want to disturb her. Huh.

Also, I haven't spoken to her in 3 years (woop woop) and I really want to report her ass but I'm not sure how. (￣∇￣")

ACK sorry about my rant I just wanted to let it off my chest. Honestly, I'd confront your friend about what she's doing. If you two are best friends, then she surely should care about you, enough she'll decide to change. If she gives no damns, maybe it's time to leave her. It's hard-- and it was hard leaving my own best friend. I still think about her but then I realise if I was still friends with her, god knows what may happen today. Or, perhaps if you want to save your relationship, I recommend talking to her parents, form a private meeting or talk a professional about it. Anyway, sorry for the long post, I hope everything goes well with you. Stay strong! （￣へ￣）

Thankyou so much for this! My friend is a little different, but I feel gives off similar vibes. She’s an introvert, and has actually family issues, but doesn’t like to believe that they’re a little bit of the reason she’s the way she is. Cathy tends to need attention, and won’t break up with her boyfriend unless she has another lined up. She is so oriented on having goals which I admire her for, but fucks up by doing stupid shit like I mentioned in my original posts. She doesn’t think this will effect her but it surely will if she doesn’t change. Sometimes I just want to SCREAM at her that she needs to shut up and look in the mirror. Her mom cares, but her personality is different from Cathy’s and I don’t think she realizes Cathy’s going to dig herself into a ditch if she doesn’t get her act right. She’s also super clingy and if I know anything it’s that the only people who like SEVERLY clingy women are men who are possessive and abusive, to which many of her boyfriends were. Now I agree, there are so many great guys out there, but she’s always getting attracted to the manipulative ones. I feel even if a nice boy dated her, he’d be shunned away by her ways. Sending love and wishes to you and your guy friend who’s suffered, I would never wish anything like that on somebody.

If she wants to try and see what a life with a child is like, maybe you should make her babysit a child for a day (of course with a supervisor). Maybe that way, she will rethink again before deciding to have a baby herself.

Interesting! Though, she has a little brother that’s turning 4 this year, and has babysat him a lot when she was little. However, I think babysitting in this aspect is a little different as she doesn’t know the true responsibility of actually owning a child. I too have babysat her brother, and if that was the same as having my own child, it would be easy as pie. However it’s totally different. I appreciate the advice! Maybe I’ll tell her to think about her own brother.

Haha, thank you! I'm pretty sure she just hoards attention because of the family issues at home. The lack of communication (not just verbally but emotionally, physically and mentally) between relatives can be quite dangerous and can become even more severe when years go on. I'm a big introvert in real life and I don't communicate much with my parents (language barrier, unfortunately) and there are times I crave attention (but I managed to stop that behaviour by having a hand-selected good friends to talk to and also I used to have bad anger issues but then I gradually became more patient. Nowadays, my friends call me "The One With 99% Tolerance". It takes a lot of practice but in the end, it's worth it). From my BFF's example, she uses boyfriends as a comfort rather than love. Honestly, by the number of boyfriends she's dated, she can literally date her entire high school if she wanted. From my perspective, I'm pretty sure she prefers having them so she can feel secure, and also manipulate, rather than the ones at home. Does Cathy use boyfriends as a comfort rather than love? ╮(- 3 -)╭

And about that baby, I would highly recommend she consider planning a schedule for the future (make sure her family is involved, along with other people and perhaps a professional) to see if she has enough time for pretty much everything (food, shelter, finances, health, etc). If her plans seem to exceed over 2-3 or more subjects per day, then that's not healthy, especially for a baby. I've heard of many young people (starting from 12 which is really young) who wanted to have a baby. Some desperately just wanted one because they just like babies in general or they had a bad history in the past and they want to nurture a child and watch it grow up. And, maybe you should scream at her to shut up and look in the mirror (ok well, not like THAT but confront her). You'll not only get everything out of your system but if she doesn't change, then you can tell she's far too stubborn to be friends with and it might be time to leave her. Besides, even if she does try to fight back, there will be no excuses because you said everything you said and she didn't take the message. But anyway, I hope things go well! (〜￣V￣)〜

Yes, from what I can see I believe she uses men as comfort and mistakes it for love. I hope it’s just baby fever, as sometimes she brings up crazy things, but only time can tell.

Helloooo~ I know it’s been a while but I feel the need to share the continuation of this drama! So basically, my friend Cathy (the name I referred to her as) has since broken up with this 18 year old guy (who I stg was a pedo) and is dating her current boyfriend (who I’m gonna call Dante). He is hands down the sweetest guy and is a total 180 from her usual type. He gives off good vibes and is very kind to everyone else as well, even me. She can still be a bit coo coo crazy but everyone has their flaws and until it negatively affects me, I’m sure to stick with her as a friend. In certain situations, the best thing is to walk away, and as easy as it sounds it’s very hard. In this case it was merely impossible since we were so close, and I’m glad it smoothed itself off since it would be really hard to let her go. Thankyou guys for listening to my story and have a great 2020!!!

P.S. so when she broke up with the one older dude who was gross he legit came to abduct her at school one time (not really but try to win her back) and I was fr fr pissed.

Ah, I wish the best for Dante, he seems like a really nice guy! I hope things won't go nasty and crazy and I genuinely hope that this guy stays safe and protected at all cost. I hate the feeling of someone so innocent and pure ending up as a disaster in the end because of one person. And I'm glad she broke up with her previous boyfriend, he just sounds like an accident waiting to happen. And when you mentioned how he came to her school one time just set off all red flags! Hope you have a wonderful 2020! (〜^U^)〜

Thanks for the update :D

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THANKYOU SO MUCH IVE BEEN LOOKING FOREVER AHHHHHH

sorry idk but i'll be following ^^;