Uni's Topics (14)

I agree with you he tied him that he couldn't even express if he feels anxious or want to stop and covering his mouth while he know its his first time for bonding is too much

Kink educator here! I 100% agree that this isn't a well negotiated or healthy scene in a real world context. And I'm happy to educate anyone who is curious or wants to understand healthy negotiation/ consent-forward practices in irl kink. But I do think this is still a fun story and that a fictional portrayal of a BDSM scene is allowed to not fully adhere to reality and still be good.

Once again, I do think discussing real life kink and teaching people that acting like this in the irl scene isn't okay. But all people practicing BDSM are...people. We make mistakes, we push our limits, we miscommunicate. I think shaming an unrealistic or unhealthy part of a fictional work like this can make people who are learning or have made mistakes in the past in the real world feel like they may not be allowed to ask questions or if they don't practice bdsm perfectly then they'll be viewed as horrible. Also, we're still knee deep in the story anyway. We have no clue what growth the characters will or won't go through. I think this story has proven itself worth a chance to see how it evolves.

I understand all of this is nuance and if that scene made you uncomfortable, I totally get it. I just wanted to differentiate between a good Dom in the real world and a good Dom in a horny fictional story and acknowledge how they can be different with education and not judgment.

Thanks for this reply. I know a fair amount of bsdm things and I was excited to read this because it has “basic guildbok” to bdsm so I was expecting some teaching moment and healthy Dynamics. It's has already shown so much I'm glad with it. Yes we all makes mistakes and we grow. I may have been to rash and harsh, I'm excited to see what the author does with the story next (￣∇￣") (thanks for getting back into my senses kink educator)

You're absolutely allowed to feel however you feel about this series, positively or negatively. Like I said, I totally get it. If you're able to check it out again or read it from a different pov that's more fun for you, that's great! But if you aren't, that's okay too. No pressure or judgement from me. I just want you to read stuff you enjoy and let other people know I support their joy too Life's hard, read some fun kinky smut, y'know?

I had a strong reaction at first, too ( some my personal preferences and feelings caused me to take the story too seriously) but I saw a comment that made me rethink how I was reading the chapter itself and the story at large. I'm glad I checked in with myself and reevaluated so I didn't keep comparing this to the ideas I had in my own brain.

yeah it was a bit much there was no way for him to give a safe word or an way out

I know they didn't explicitly show it in negotiations or scene-prep, but there are a lot of different ways to communicate a safeword or safety signal while gagged and in bondage. If not knowing if there's a safeword or safety signal in place like that ruins the fantasy for you, totally valid. But there are a bunch of different ways that the sub could have called red/ communicated an issue with the Dom in this scene specifically. I don't say that to make you change the way you feel, just to offer a chance to educate if that's something you're interested in.